Time doesn't heal all wounds (0__0)

[Mark-Harrison-Viera]

So it's been 6 months since the last thing I've posted on here, in which it was about my ex and how she left me, I have learned that she was definitely a better friend than companion ( no offense to her), I'd like to thank everyone that had helped me with it, but a new threatening issue has came into my life, I've been in 2 relationships since the one previously mentioned, but to add to that I feel that the reason none of my relationships have gone well is because I never feel confident about myself, and if i'm a 100% honest ( I am), I don't know how to be confident, I want to feel confident about myself so I can be a better person, can anyone give me advice?

Thanks in advance

[Agora1]

Hey Mark, I'm glad to see that within the last 6 months you have grieved the loss of your ex as well as see it more clearly in what she meant to you. They say Love is Blind and it's true. Where emotions are involved, our rational thinking can go out the window. But that's life. We learn from our experiences both good and bad. As for your self confidence, it's not unusual for young people to feel unconfident about themselves. For most of us it takes time to figure out who we are and what our purpose in life is. It can't be defined by another person, it must come from within. Is it possible when your ex left the relationship, she took along your self worth??

Don't allow that to happen. You need to be your own person. If that's not good enough for someone then that's their problem. Don't be so hard on yourself. In time, you will grow in maturity both mentally and physically. You will find that person who will compliment who you are. Meanwhile since I'm so into YouTube...I found a video that may help sum up what I am saying. Hope you give it a try. "How to Build Self Confidence"

by Michelle Phan.

You're going to be okay Mark... You sound like a good guy

[Fatima_sh]

Time does heal some wounds, but you can’t help but think about the past sometimes and that’s ok, just don’t dwell in it and keep moving forward.

You have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin, get to know yourself well before you get into another relationship.

Spend some time with yourself, it can be something as simple as painting or going on a hike.

Don’t be afraid to be alone, after all you are your best companion and no one knows you better than you do !

And the most important point of all ...

Learn to love yourself ! 😊

[maggief9812]

Practice thinking nice things about yourself. Acknowledge your strengths. Maybe you’re really smart about a specific topic. Maybe you’re passionately interested in something that not a lot of people are into...

When we’re still in high school these things that set us apart make us feel isolated, weird and unlovable. When we grow, and our peers grow, we realize it’s those things that set us apart that make us exceptional! It’s what makes us interesting! Celebrate what makes you uniquely you. People respond positively to genuine people.

And if you’re just uncertain and haven’t found it yet, that’s ok too. Be young- enjoy it! Every day is a new experience and a new chance to learn more about yourself and what you want from life.

[maggief9812 in reply to maggief9812]

Ps. I don’t think I’ve ever known a teen that never struggled with confidence/self image/self esteem. Even the most popular kids are secretly worried about some thing.

[NCAQuilter]

Mark, the feeling of incompetence is a common feeling that we all get at various times throughout our lives. Whenever something new comes along, especially something we have no experience with, a feeling of not being able to handle it may overcome us. You are facing the biggest challenge there is: adulthood. Without experiencing any of it. And it's gonna last a long time. Well, we all learn how to handle things by making mistakes, and succeeding. We all make many mistakes through life, if we're really living, and learn how to succeed. With time, success comes more and more frequently, and when facing greater and greater challenges.

Being afraid is actually good for you. Not wanting to fail will help you learn from your mistakes, and so you become better at this thing called life. One of the greatest lessons to learn is that to take a chance and fail teaches us what not to do during the next try. The next time has a much greater chance of succeeding because we now have a greater chance to try the right approach. And, asking for help when we need it is a really big sign of maturity!

What would you feel like when you are confident? Try feeling this way as you approach small challenges. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is going into a challenge knowing only we know the right answer. If something goes wrong, it is because someone else did something wrong, 'Not me!' Confidence is going into a challenge knowing we may not have the right answer, but will try our best, and learn from the experience. Be confident.

Have faith in yourself. You are already on the right path. Believe this:

When you have come to the edge of all the light you know,

And are about to step into the darkness of the unknown,

Faith is knowing one of two things will happen:

You will step on solid ground, or,

You will be taught how to fly.

Soar with the eagles!

[Jimdubu]

Mark I am sorry for the pain you have gone through.Our minds can be our best friends or our worst enemies. The great Protestant Christian reformer Marin Luther said the "Mind is the Devils whore" I prefer the Devils playground. anyways our minds can be manipulated into stinking thinking as I call it. Self doubt is a symptom of anxiety, something I know only all to well. Have you thought about talking to someone about your self doubt ? here is a number for a great organization that can give you some free counseling advice 1-855-382-5433. Remember God don't make no junk,and He loves you. Prayers my Friend.