Just got results of CT scan of my husband's chest - routine for seniors. They found a small spot on his lung, and an anurisim on his aorta. They are trying to schedule an ultrasound ASAP. This man has been highly active all his life, and only one health problem. He has been the love of my life and strong supporter for 60 years. HELP, please.
You guys are the ones I turn to because I want to keep a stiff upper lip for him. And, because I don't break down in front of other people. The ole 'Buck Up' issue. I feel safe trembling here. Thank you for being here
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I understand your worry about your husband. I too have a small spot on my lung, it was first noticed 30 years ago and is no bigger today. So do not automatically fear the worst. The aneurism on the aorta can be contained with a procedure if it is above a certain size or just monitored if below that size.
Please do not think this must be the end, we are lucky enough to live in the 21st century when medical science has made so many amazing advances.
Thanks SO much. You eased my concerns considerably. I love this group because everyone is like you; loving, caring, sharing, receptive, and not judgmental. I don't know of another group where one finds so many like-minded people.
After I calmed down, I remembered advice the psychiatrist at the hospital I 'visited' this summer gave me. She said to only work on those things I could change, and leave those I have no control over to others to solve. So, I can't change the facts of my husband's health issues, but, I can change and control my response and how I deal with them on a day to day basis. I can research so I know better what questions to ask. I can be strong when he needs me to be strong. I can go with him to any appointments so he isn't alone if news is bad. I can show my love for him in a million small ways. And, I can omit as much of my depression and anxiety as I possibly can from his life.
We have been each other's strongest support system all our lives. He has always been there for me. I will be there for him.
Thanks for calming me down with reality, so I could come to this solution.
Those are very wise words indeed and could not be improved on as a plan to take you forward. My wife always gives me confidence during health scares by saying: "Whatever it is we will deal with it."
My cousin has an aneurism on the aortic artery, they are just checking it from time to time, if it does become larger they fit a special stent round it.
So THAT is how you knew so much about what I'm facing! First-hand knowledge is the best. My husband and I have had said,'We'll face this together', too, each time we've had a crisis. And, you know what? Each time on the other side we were able to find joy. I know it is because we were together. Knowing there will be joy makes it so much less of a trauma! Sometimes, it is hard to remember when it hits you in the face. Thanks, again, for reminding me!
Since we will be facing this together, with the support of our children, whatever comes will be all of us against IT! IT doesn't stand a chance of beating us down! Thank you for your kind words. They are greatly appreciated.
Try to stay strong for the both of you. I know it’s easier said than done believe me. Prayers coming your way. Wishing and praying for good results and some good news for your hubby!
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