Social Anxiety being finally diagnosed...

So, I am sure I have social anxiety. One major symptom is that I have an "awkward" "nervous" voice when I speak. I was told that I always sound like im unsure which is honestly true, I never know what I want or need. I am just living day by day through life sad and needing love by someone. How do I get rid of my voice issues? I know I have terrible self esteem, self confidence, I dont date, and I have two very good friends who I adore but I know they wont help me through it all. My family hates me point blank and im 17. Anyway, I want to be confident so someone will notice me and like me...

[TJacqueline]

Your not alone I have social anxiety too .

[Marshall64]

The voice that you have may actually be something that attracts someone to you. I like girls that seem shy. It makes me curious about them. Maybe a guy your age will find that attractive too.

[hypercat54]

Hate is a very strong word so why would your family feel that way about you? What do they say or do to you which makes you think they hate you? x

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

I mess up a lot. Im "dumb" and "dont have common sense"

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

You're only a kid- it's part of being human. Sorry your family treats you like that.

[hypercat54]

And that's reason to hate a family member? Would you hate one of yours if you thought they did the same? We all mess up, be dumb and don't have common sense sometimes. This is because we are all human. x

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

Apparently my dad couldnt take it any longer and sent me away :/ my mom died so it is harder

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

I am so sorry about your mum. Did your dad tell he sent you away because you mess up, was dumb, and don't have common sense? I reckon it was much more likely he was finding very hard to cope and thought sending you away was the best thing for you. x

[Hidden]

Hello x I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through x social anxiety is so horrible x I myself used to have it really bad but overtime thankfully I have been able to manage it x

The voice probably comes from the nerves. Sometimes I find when I’m nervous and suffering from anxiety my voice gets a lot higher 😳 x so in order to fix that issue you need to get help with learning how to manage your nerves and anxiety through maybe therapy or counselling x

On a side note .. I don’t know anything about your family life but I do want to just mention that anxiety etc can sometimes cause us to overthink and always think negatively x so they MIGHT not actually HATE you x 💕 take care and keep in touch x

[gogogirl]

Where did your father send you? He is still responsible for you- you are a minor.

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

He sent me to another state. I am with family right now. I did more crazy stuff out here and he completely gave up on me and he doesnt want to talk to me again

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

Things could change- glad you are with family.

[APOR2017]

Dear Restart Greentea, I am so sorry you are going through such a tough time. I have always had confidence issues myself and also with my voice. The thing that helped me was recording myself reading or teaching something silly like cooking. I never showed anyone but it still helped me to fluctuate my voice without embarrassment. I hope this helps you like it did me. I wish you all the best!