I feel like I am losing myself

[lovesbeachesandbooks]

Everyday I wake up and I hope it will be a good day and I will be able to watch how I say things to my family. I hope that I can wake up and feel like myself or be able to start to find who I am. I miss my go-getter mood and goal accomplish in high school. I miss being able to get along with my brothers and family but I guess that is long gone. I really need to be able to just work and focus on myself and not worry about taking care of others.

[Lostbuthopeful]

I have always heard you need to take care of yourself but you’re able to take care of others. I know it’s easier said than done. But I hope you keep working to find this balance. 💕

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Lostbuthopeful]

I wish i could do both but its hard when people are against me that are suppose to be my family

[Lostbuthopeful in reply to lovesbeachesandbooks]

I’m sorry, I meant *before you’re able to take care of others. But it does make it more difficult without support from family. That’s why we are all here for each other. It’s not quite the same, but hopefully it does bring some comfort to know you’re not alone in this.

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Lostbuthopeful]

It does and its okay. I like that I can write out how I feel on this site and have a community that supports and understands what I am going through

[wildhoney1214]

Yes take care of yourself first. And you will get back to yourself. Your mind is in a negative loop right now, but you can change it. It seems silly, but every morning when you wake up, go to your bathroom mirror, put your hands on your heart and say “good morning, I love you”. Do it long enough and you will learn to love yourself again.

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to wildhoney1214]

Thank you for that never thought to try that.

[Rick1on1]

Hi - tell us a bit about your situation?

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Rick1on1]

I have two brothers that no matter what I say are mean to me by calling me a b***h, go die, they hate me, or they don't want me around their future kids. I also have my parents telling me that I will never get a job let alone finish school and i basically feel like I only have my friends supporting me. I live in a negative house hold and I have no license yet and i can't get away from anything.

[Rick1on1 in reply to lovesbeachesandbooks]

Thanks for sharing - sorry have not been on the site for a few days.

Glad you feeling better. Can I ask why you think your family is hostile to you?

[Hidden]

Hey I’m sorry you’re in this situation x you seem to know what you’re doing in terms of looking after yourself before focusing on others x i hope you feel better soon 💕

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much <3

[pink318]

I’m very sorry you are going through this. I pray that you will feel the love and support from your family.

Please know that we are here for you and you can post anytime. You are not alone.

I hope this forum can help you to be encouraged and will help you to feel better.

Take care. You are in my prayers.

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to pink318]

Thank you that means a lot. I am actually slowly feeling better. I am hoping to have it continue.

[Byelka]

I'm glad you can say to yourself that you need to focus on yourself. Do you feel comfortable saying that to your friends/family? It can be hard to do because that's often seen as selfish, but it's not really. Everyone deserves some self care from time to time and some need it more than others. I hope you can ask for what you need from those around you. If you ever want to chat feel free to message me.

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Byelka]

Thank you! Not quite there yet. I am slowly getting there though