Worrying

[ronnellstc]

My boyfriend says it makes him feel like a child, but i ask that he just let me know if he will not be home right away or if he plans on going somewhere. We have different work schedules, I work during the day, and he works nights. Because he is a recovering addict, I do worry that something will trigger a relapse. And if i am not in contact with him, my mind go directly to that thought of "what if". I know I need to trust him more, but it is very hard when I have these thoughts.

[Smg315]

My boyfriend and I both tell each other where we’re at and when we get to and from work. He usually gets home before I do. It’s a matter of safety for us. It’s a crazy world we live in and if he doesn’t tell me he’s home at the usual time, I’ll know somethings wrong. Maybe you should explain to him your reasoning for wanting to be updated throughout the day.

[ronnellstc in reply to Smg315]

I tried having this discussion with him last night. Explained to him that it in case something ever happened, i could be like "ohh i spoke to him and he said he was heading to such and such a place" , but he sees it as me being controlling, making him feel like a child.

[Raiden]

How long since he last used? Does he still have friends that use?

[Raiden]

You will have to learn to trust him trust is the most important thing. Its very understandable that you are worried about him relapsing but for how many years do you worry. Trust he loves you more then the high his lucky to have someone who cares so much

[Hidden]

If he chooses to relapse, you cannot stop him. That’s his little red wagon, not yours! “What ifs” will get the best of you! Try not to jump into the worst case scenario. Trust him and try to think more positively! I do think it’s sweet of you to care about him so, but he’s a grown man and can/should take care of himself! You’re a good person 🌺🙂🌺

[Sandyxoxx]

I want to add ,it's outa respect too! Why not say I'll gonna be late ,or whatever . Your showing you care also !!

[Ann10]

In this day and age, it is nice to text each other to keep in touch. It must be difficult because you are working different shifts.

[ronnellstc in reply to Ann10]

It is very difficult. I work in the medical field which allows me to work a 9-5 type job, and he is a chef , normally working 6pm to close( 11pm or later). Most nights I will sleep from 7pm till 11, and stay up with him for an hour or 2.

[Ann10 in reply to ronnellstc]

It is good that you came up with a way to spend time with him with your schedules. I can understand why you would want him to get in touch with you if he is not coming home right away. Hopefully, the more time you spend together, the more you can concentrate on his positive traits and not worry as much.