Shame

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Has anyone here done talk therapy focussing on shame? I read a book a while back in a group and it made sense, but after a while it just didn't stick anymore.

[Hidden]

Hi !,

No, I haven't done talk therapy focusing on shame, but I think that is an excellent topic. If you remember the name of the book, please let me know.

Delta1

[Lazy_dog_lover in reply to Hidden]

We used "Facing Shame: Families in Recovery" by Merle A. Fossum. The author has an interesting history. It lead to good discussions.

[Hidden in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

Awesome! Thank you so much! I love reading and research, so I'm loving this!

Delta

[Lazy_dog_lover in reply to Hidden]

We also read "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw

[Hidden in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

Thanks again for sharing!

[fauxartist]

what kind of therapy focus's on shame?.... as in how to get past it, or move forward from being ashamed?

[Lazy_dog_lover in reply to fauxartist]

I was in a cognitive behavioral therapy group.

We evaluated our own shame, sources, and ways to move forward.

[gerg]

I have worked a lot with the subject of shame. It is a powerful emotion, a toxic emotion. Shame is based in morality and the judgement of right or wrong. Where regret and guilt are mindful, shame tends to be soulful. Shame can be lessened but it always remains. The best way to deal with shame is to understand it. I think that we are susceptible to shame differently,as individuals, due to several factors.

This is only my view of the subject. I am just a person that has experienced a lot of shame, both feeling it and causing it. I find it to be an interesting and important subject that seems to be avoided, due to fear caused by ignorance.

[Hidden]

My mother invokes shameful feelings in me. Her dismissal of depressive thoughtS and feelings disturbs me at times. This is why I distance myself.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

If she is actively shaming you, remember that is probably HER shame surfacing and she is deflecting it to you as her defense mechanism.

[fauxartist in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

you know....that is a really good point...I'm gonna remember this one. thanks

[Tedddy]

Do you follow Brene' Brown? She's a shame researcher and many of her books, interviews and TED talks surround that topic. It's very interesting!