Other people can shame you

I have been in a deep depression for 2weeks now. Very fragile and sensitive. I work at a job with snitches, bullies and petty people who shun u for no reason. It can literally freeze me and cause me to feel like a bad person. Being that I have no support when I get off work I internalize everything and shutdown. It is a sick cycle. I was sitting thinking today, everybody seems to not like me and no one is ever on my team. How do you get out of this if all you have is your self.

[CazO46]

Hi moodchange, it sounds really tough where you work. I have worked in offices where the culture seems to be one of negativity and bullying. I dealt with it by making the decision not to be drawn into the moaning and bullying. I claimed my right to be respected and kindly but firmly began to say to people not to talk to me in a certain way or ask if there was something bothering them they wanted to talk about. It's very hard and I needed to use meditation and yoga to cope with. Maybe you could try something like this perhaps while looking for a new job! Take care 💜

[fauxartist]

work places have become very tough these days with so many unhappy people, no loyalty or trust and certainly being abused isn't good. I'm sorry that is happening....but your not a bad person....your a good person who is having to deal with bad people....and of course your going to take that to heart.... I hope by sharing here and getting to know others like yourself who have dealt with this like Caz046 and myself as well...we have to learn to take our power back...and not give it to any one. They don't deserve it, and you don't have to give it to them. Please keep sharing here about it and know your not alone any more..you have great people here to back you up....you will find a way that works to put them out of your head space....

[gogogirl]

Try to do something you enjoy - I know it's hard- but maybe exercise or do yoga- something to destress.

[Strongheartforever]

Be a friend to yourself. Reach out to an acquaintance and develop a friendship. Reframe your situation from an objective view. You already feel vulnerable because you feel unsupported, so you may have a distorted view and assume the worst. So good to write here and shine light on the darkness. Take its power away. Know you are going to come through this with some pretty priceless wisdom.

[SparkofLife]

Sounds like a hostile work environment. I worked with REALLY difficult people before. My therapist advised me to leave. I eventually did. But, because I was there for so long, it scarred me. After that I don't participate in gossip. I do my job and leave. It's one of those situations where ignorance is bliss.

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry to hear you have to work in such a stressful situation. Perhaps there is a way you could look for another job. I know its hard to deal with the stress when you feel alone. Maybe you could find a community or church group that you could share with others. Depression can be mentally draining. Be kind to yourself. You are heard and never alone.