MOTHER: Sorry its me again, I just... - Anxiety and Depre...

Anxiety and Depression Support

93,041 members86,926 posts

MOTHER

gerrerd profile image
30 Replies

Sorry its me again, I just have to tell you about todays experience.

I have a lot of guilt concerning my mother and not being a good son when she was alive. She died 33 years ago. So today i started to talk to her as if she was still here. Told her i was sorry, That im a better person now, She used to say to me you will miss me when im gone. She said this to me many times, but i never understood this or took no notice. I know what she ment now! Anyway i got up to go to the bedroom. And started to sing a song, This is not like me i dont sing to myself. So here is what i sang. When you need love just reach out your hand i will be love, I,m only a heart beat away!!!!!!!!!!!!. Sorry i,m in tears.

Written by
gerrerd profile image
gerrerd
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
30 Replies
fauxartist profile image
fauxartist

never be sorry for speaking your heart, I'm glad your making your peace with your mother. Regret and guilt are like 'Acid in a Vessel', eventually the acid just eats through and it's so devastating. Sometimes it takes the time it takes for us to come to terms with things, your a good son, she knows that...and a good cry is cathartic

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply tofauxartist

Thank you.

Aliftimago profile image
Aliftimago

Your mother was right you did miss her! Wow that's amazing. My grandma always told me not to be sad when she left me because she was going to a better place but she would always be there to watch over me.....I believe in that. And she has I have been saved from some very bad situations, and I always believed it's because she is watching over me just like she said. So the singing....did your mom sing? Maybe she is with you helping you.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAliftimago

Ive been singing this song all afternoon, cant get it out of my head.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAliftimago

When you said did my mother sing not as i recall, But you just brought a memory back to me. The day before she died she was singing out load. And i cant recall her ever doing this before. Same as me its very rare for me to do this. This is very strange whats going on Ray.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAliftimago

See my last reply it,s still going on

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd

It came threw me I think it was a message from her, I didnt even realise i was singing or what i was singing. Until i heard the words. I have never sang this song in my life until today. Love from Ray.

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88 in reply togerrerd

I dunno man...that's weird! I think it happened for a reason!

gogogirl profile image
gogogirl

I get feelings like that myself about guilt. Please be kind to yourself. Maybe that is your mother telling you that- I hope so.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply togogogirl

Singing and crying at the same time now.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd

I feel it is her. Feeling a fantastic release. I feel very very happy. RAY.

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88 in reply togerrerd

Wow....that's so crazy....

Agora1 profile image
Agora1

:) x Embrace that feeling Ray....

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAgora1

Whats going on? I have just been into the garden singing at the top of my voice. Looked over to all the birds in the tree they stayed there listening to me, They generaly fly of when they see me. ????????????????????????????????

Agora1 profile image
Agora1 in reply togerrerd

Don't be afraid Ray. Sing and rejoice the feeling. I believe that people can reach out to us. Your mother may be letting you know that she is watching over you and you will never be alone. She choose this day, her birthday, to let her son know that she loves him. x

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAgora1

Im going to need a lye after all this there,s loads of energy in my body now.

Agora1 profile image
Agora1 in reply togerrerd

Brought tears to my eyes :)

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88 in reply togerrerd

Gerrerd....BELIEVE! YES!

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toLavendorTown88

See my last reply it,s still going on.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toLavendorTown88

See my last reply it,s still going on.

Agora1 profile image
Agora1

There aren't the rational answers in life as to many of our questions about loved ones we have lost. I feel you have opened your heart in song today and your mother heard you. x

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toAgora1

Exhausted after this now Im going for a rest i need it, Thank you all for going threw this experience I now know why i had a tremendouse urge to share it. God bless each and every one of you. Ray.

Agora1 profile image
Agora1 in reply togerrerd

God Bless you too Ray x

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88 in reply togerrerd

God bless you too. So glad that happened for you.

💝🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎶🎶🎵🎵🎵💖

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88

Living in regret is not the way. She is STILL with you Gerrerd! She IS just a heart beat away. I'm so glad you learned from this in a positive way.

Peace ~

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply toLavendorTown88

Thank you becky. I,M still singing now.!!! Going to bed probably be singing in my sleep. Love Ray.

LavendorTown88 profile image
LavendorTown88 in reply togerrerd

Sing in your sleep Gerrerd

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54

That's lovely Ray and I am sure she heard you up there. I like to think that our loved ones stay with us then we join them when it's our turn to pass. You were obviously young when she went but you will meet again.

Thank you for trusting us with your emotions and feelings my friend. They are in safe hands here. Bev x

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd

Thank you the experience was even better because i shared it with people on here while it was happening, Strange things are going on at the moment i get woken in the middle of the night and loads of stuff to put on the forum is coming to me. I dont know were its coming from. I had to get a pen and note pad to write it down. Thats why there,s been so many posts. So it,s a bit crazy same with the pictures I dont pick them i click on one, and it always the right one.????? lots of love from Ray.

gerrerd profile image
gerrerd in reply togerrerd

Its still going on, Went to bed well i started to sing again even loader. After a while i noticed that the words had changed. I was now singing. When you need love just open your heart and i,ll be love, I,m only a heart beat away, I tried to stop singing but could not. I had no control of it!!!!!!!!! It,s now changed again to.Give me hope Jehovah. And i dont go to church or sing hymes . anyway my voice is going. Waiting for it to stop so i can go to sleep..!!!!!!!!!!!

Not what you're looking for?

You may also like...

Mother Peaceful now.

Well I have to share what hapend when I went to bed, you wont believe this. It,s a good job I wrote...
gerrerd profile image

No one talk about what happens to your family after surviving a suicide attempt

Just because you're still alive doesn't mean they're not grieving. Mom's face was different, she...

Mother/young adult daughter and making amends...

Hello community, I have been rereading my posts and I noticed that I think I observe mood swings...

Mother with narcissistic traits

I am new here and this is my first post. How do you cope with a mother who has narcissistic traits...
Crochet34 profile image

Abusive Mother

Hello everyone. I hope you all are doing well. I wanted to come on here to talk about something...

Moderation team

Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.

Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.