Tired of being numb (please help)

[Lindsey14]

My friend is having family troubles which was triggering her urges to self harm...i feel like an asshole, because she came to me to just talk and my voice didnt sound empathetic, like ik i cared but i just didnt feel it much....i hate it so much i feel like a hearless human being. She did cut, shes okay but i feel like a jerk. I feel numb but ik i was scared, ik i care....my heart is still pounding.. (sorry this is so long)

[Hidden]

Go to her and share how you feel and ask for forgiveness and explain how you truly feel. Reset and go from there. Sometimes we just don’t understand the situations we are in until after when we can truly appreciate the situation. 🙏🏼

[fauxartist]

I would say you either switched off because of self preservation...you couldn't handle the subject matter.....or you don't have the kind of relationship with this person to be on the level where you would want to take that kind of responsibility for something as serious as self harm. Or you do care....but can't express it, your not a professional, and that is an extremely personal and scary thing to be confronted with to try and help someone with if you have no answers for them....your not being un-caring...you just don't know how to help them. I know there are lots of online self harm resources, and if the subject comes up again....you may want to explore them with your friend. Let them know you care, if you do care. Or be honest and tell them they need to get some professional help, because you don't know what to do for them. Try to be compassionate, because they are hurting.

[Flaweddesign]

Just try to talk to her and if she is a hugger then hold her. Sometimes hug means more than words. When you do talk to her try to listen, if she hasnt seen any professional, ask her as friend to seek help so they can help her cope.

[fauxartist in reply to Flaweddesign]

what a great response.....and so true....hugs are powerful things......when we don't have the words .....spot on.

[Hidden]

Dont beat yourself up about it.That was a very scary situation that you did not know how to handle at the time.I dont know if these crisis lines are international because I live in the us but you can give them to your friend.NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE 1800-273-8255 and CRISIS TEXTLINE TEXT THE WORD" HOME" TO 741741.YOU DONT HAVE TO BE SUICIDAL TO CONTACT EITHER OF THESE SERVICES.you can also refer your friend to this support group or search online to see if there are support groups or a therapist in your area for your friend.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Itsjustmeagain]

She's ok now and you understand yourself maybe a bit better, so if there is a next time you'll be better prepared sometimes. Even things that one would think should come naturally need practice.

Best wishes to you both