Anxiety - Depression

[Britt9215]

Hi, I’m Britt! I just joined and was hoping I could get some advice. I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression for what seems like my whole life. I was diagnised when I was ten years old, so I’ve lived with it for about 16 years. I recently got married in March of this year and my poor husband, try as he might, just doesn’t understand this awful disorder along with the symptoms it brings. Any advise on how to show him that it’s not just all in my head or that I’m overreacting?

[Iloveart7]

I don't have much advice in this area. I've got the same problem. My husband doesn't understand either. Sometimes if I'm having a real hard time I'll write him a letter to try to explain what I'm dealing w/ and that helps a little bit.

[Believeinyourself123]

My ex husband didn't understand it and sadly my last ex. I recommend getting pamphlets on it and showing him. If you see a therapist or a mental health Dr they should also have some good tips. I wish you the best ❤

[Lt-Cookie]

Hello Britt,

Your hubby might not having a problem with your disorders but rather being frustrated not being able to help. Feeling helpless can drive someone to act in an unhealthy way.

Perhaps you also could clarify to him that it is not his help that you need but simply him being supportive and understanding.

Here is a story for you:

I had a friend that never understood what anxiety feels like and keeps on telling me you got this and that and you should feel happy. Although i never really asked him for help or advice.

So, i got one of those lead jackets they make you wear when you are doing an x-ray and had him wear it under his shirt for a day.

That did not work so i sneezed and gave him the anxiety bug :)...

In all seriousness he genuinely never since then gave me the "you should be happy" talk...

Hope this helps or at least put a smile on your face.

Disclaimer: I am in no way telling you to sneeze on your hubby.

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Why don't you let him read some of the posts on here from people who are going through it too.

[debbiegk]

It is hard for people to understand others when they don't deal with the same issue. Perhaps this link will help you know how to share with him: bit.ly/2mFxWoz