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A Surprise Upcoming Visit

Greetings all,

Yesterday, out of the blue, I heard from my nephew (it’s been some time). He lives 500 miles away. He’d like to come visit over the weekend. This totally took me by surprise. Yet I’m a loving uncle, so I said of course he’s welcome to come visit.

He doesn’t know about my social anxiety issues. So he’d like me to be tour guide over the weekend. I’m so not into that. But I’ll do the best I can do to entertain.

This is a bit anxiety provoking yet exciting as well. I’m hoping he enjoys his visit.

I welcome thoughts from others.

Best,

MZ

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Wow! That's so great. I hope you have an aweasome time with him.

About being a tour guide you can try taking him on hours of the day that are not so crowded, or maybe think about alternative places that are interesting, but not famous touristic spots.

If this is not possible, try to focus on the mission of giving him a great time. Focusing in a mission, like a game that I get points in the end, sometimes help me go through hard activities.

Best wishes

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Great ideas. Thank you so much for the wonderful tips!

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Oh how exciting! I hope it goes well. I had to entertain some my husband's family, it was stressful but I tried to focus on them and try to think about thing that help you calm.

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Thank you for the nice feedback!

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I'm glad to see your nephew is coming to visit! That's really great!

You know.... food always does me good! Haha.

& perhaps a night of music would be fun! I think you would enjoy yourself!

Let us know how it goes! <3

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Yes, we’re going out for a nice dinner. That’s for sure. Food always warms the heart when it comes to family.

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I think that’s so great that he wants to visit you! I’m not so much into doing tourist attraction stuff either! I’m more of a stay home, drink coffee and have a deep and meaningful conversation kind of gal...I’ll cook dinner later! I know you’ll do a good job showing him around! I hope the visit is memorable!

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Thanks Gratitude.

My nephew’s a good guy. I’m hoping it’s a mellow visit. I’ll let everyone know. You and I are similar, I’m more of a stay home too.

Best,

MZ

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How nice that your nephew values your company so much! The big tour sounds like you'll be spending time together. It sounds like you like music- so are there music venues you could share- even an outdoor concert?

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Well, Mr. Zee you might be interested in this. It's kind of related to the c'mon get happy comments. I read an article in psychology today, and one of the comments was about how our society denies the pain of loss and looks to avoidance at all costs. How did the collective "we" get to this place? The DSM 5 even says that anyone who grieves more than two weeks has a "problem" What???? The article then goes on to say that imagine telling someone who has lost a partner of 40 years and only gives them two weeks to grieve. Maybe that's why we have people going into a doctor's office and being diagnosed with immediate "depression" because everyone is supposed to be "happy." Sounds like a dysfunctional society!!!! This is in the 8/18 issue. It's possible that a library would even have it. Have fun with your nephew!

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Thanks gogogirl. Losing a partner and only having two weeks to grieve (IMHO) is BS. It takes time to grieve and no one...not an article... or a diagnosis book can set the “projected” timeline for grieving. We has humans have our own internal clocks that we own. Some grieve quicker than others; some grieve longer; and some never get over grief. As outsiders all we can do on a compassionate level is offer comfort to those that grieve.

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Yes, is is absolutely BS. I remember I had lots of support after my dad passed many many moons ago- one person tried to tell me a "joke" to make me feel better. What???? BTW- what is IMHO- . You're right- no one can measure anyone else's grief or even happiness that is for sure. Glad we have such a variety of people on this site!

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IMHO (in my humble opinion).

Yes, we own our grief. No one else does.

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