I normally don't post on boards like this, but I feel like nobody gets what I'm feeling. My family doesn't do feelings, my few friends have so much of their own stuff going, and my counselor makes me feel like a nutcase...I'm literally paying her to make me feel worse how is that okay.
I have a lot of fears that are holding me back. I'm so afraid of driving I'm 27 and have never had a drivers license which really sucks living in rural Montana. Just the thought of driving and I feel like I can't breathe and am shakey. I picture myself behind the wheel and I just imagine myself losing control and getting into a wreck.
I have never been in a relationship. Every man I've ever been interested in has destroyed what little confidence I did have. The most recent led me on for 4 years only to find out he had secretly gotten married. I was picked on as a kid called fat, ugly, you name it. It's gotten so bad when I'm around an attractive man I feel like I morph into some hideous monster. Every time I see something romantic on TV or a movie my chest tightens and I literally...and I mean literally feel like I am being punched in the stomach. I feel so broken and don't even know how to begin to heal and get over this pain. I specifically asked my counselor for tools and exercises to help with this and the only advice she had was, unfortunately that's how life works and it was a learning experience. I don't even think she gets it's not just about wanting a relationship but to be a normal functioning person. I mean I should be able to sit on an airplane near an attractive man without having a severe anxiety attack for hours. This happened and it was so embarrassing. I pretended to be asleep so no one could see I was crying.
I feel so dumb even posting this but hey maybe if even one person understands maybe I don't feel so broken.