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Need help with severe social anxiety


Hello, I'm 39 and struggling with severe anxiety. I've had it since I was younger and it has only gotten worse. I get anxious just going to the store, at work, driving, meeting new people. I don't know how to be social and will just stay quiet, I'm not trying to be rude, It's like my mind clears and I don't know what to say. I have met people and ask questions about them but they never ask questions about me. It seems like maybe we could be friends and then they don't really conversate with me again. I'm always thinking people don't like me, maybe because I'm shy, I don't know. I don't have any friends, except my dog, kind of sad. No family, except my dad, but we're not close. I have 2 kids, but I hide my feeling from them. I think my older son has the same social issues as me, he won't even leave the house. I want to help fix my social anxieties so I can help him. I'm not taking any medications, can't afford insurance. If anyone has an suggestions to help with anxiety. Thank you.

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Samaritans is a great place to talk, total confidence, no judgment.


Hi, I'm Philip,

I take it you live in the good USA, I'm in the U.K. I have amongst my many ills lol, Dementia early onset, and depression which is rotten lol, do both your children live at home with you?

You'll soon fit right in.take care

in reply to Philip

I will look into that thank you. Both my children live with me, single parent. My son is 20 and is dealing with alot of my same issues.

in reply to shyazgirl

You have your work cutout, I have Dementia so find some things hard now and then, I try to keep my self busy and out when I get the chance.

Chin up eh.

I can relate to this... I am in my mid 30's and have really struggled with my anxiety over the last few years especially with meeting people and family. I agree with Philip that the Samaritans or any professional help is the best place to start but also here is a very safe place to vent your feelings and frustrations. How is your day going?

in reply to Paulleo

Its going ok, its hard to get going. I would like to get therapy, if there was somewhere that didnt cost alot. Thanks for responding.

Google search "low cost clinics near me" and then call and ask them what insurance type programs they have to offer. I signed up with one clinic by my home and since I have low income I qualified for a low payment option for one year. The clinic I go to offers counseling so you need to find a clinic that offers that but most do. I pay $5 to see my counselor!! $5 thats all! I have been going for a month and things are getting better for me. So google away and look for low cost help!

Also, don't think people are not interested when they don't ask about you. Most people just talk about themselves anyway. My boyfriend has social anxiety too, but I don't. I'm the opposite. I love talking to new people. You must practice your social skills. Practice makes perfect. Do you live in a big city? Or does your town/city have many events? If you really want to try new things, I suggest volunteering at an elderly home and talking to the seniors.

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