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Missnoname
Missnoname

Someone just pointed out to me that my birthday is next weekend. I hate birthdays. I don't have close family, I'm single, and my kids are too small to recognize it. It usually ends up with me crying at some point because it makes me feel so damn lonely. And then I feel like a jerk for feeling sorry for myself lol. I put myself on the schedule at work this year, so fingers crossed I don't get canceled due to overstaffing. Then I'll end up at home by myself while the kids are at dad's. Ugh. I feel this way about holidays too.

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Hidden
Hidden

Guess what Missnoname? YOUR BIRTHDAY IS NEXT WEEK, HAHA! No, I'm JK (but not really, cuz it really is your bday next week!) Just really had to throw that one in your face because you know why? You deserve it, Missy! Why do you deserve that? Because it seems like you do not know how special and important you are! You deserve a good bday! Go buy an ice cream cake from the store and get some pizza and rent a great movie and just chill! Or get dressed up and take yourself out to dinner and buy yourself some flowers!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! ; )

Missnoname
Missnoname in reply to Hidden

Thank you! I was kind of hoping I could just sleep through it and pretend it never happened. Lol

Hi I feel that way to but I started getting out I go out to sit down and eat somewhere and I buy myself something, a hat or shades or shoes etc treat yourself and you'll feel a Lil better. Go get your hair done sit in the nail shop get full treatment there. Try yoga to and read books to help with your situations. Best wishes honey

Those are issues in and of themselves. I have to force myself to leave the house, and I'm broke right now (see comment above about canceled shifts). I've been talking to a man (imagine that) who I have a date with next weekend. He coincidentally asked me when my birthday is last night and then told me he needs my clothing and shoe sizes. I almost spit my coffee out. I don't even know because after I had my 2 year old I gave up, and now all I own are scrubs and leggings 😂😂😂

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Missnoname

Let him buy you the clothes! Do celebrate your birthday, want to know why? Because you are special, no matter how you feel, there is only ONE of you!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!! Love & Hugs!!! XXX

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Missnoname

I agree SO much with anxiety_59!! You deserve to be treated right! ; ) Try to do something, even if just a few bucks $$ like rent a Redbox or something dear. (About $2.) Just ask yourself if a few bucks will make or break you? I doubt it.

; )

HAPPY BDAY !! MAY U ENJOY BDAY LITTLE BIT! BECOZ DESERVE IT ! ATLEAST GO TO THE NEAREST CAFE AND HAVE A CAKE TO CELEBRATE WITH URSELF AND U KNOW WHT NO ONE CAN UNDERSTAND U THAN URSELF !!

GO ENJOY A BIT ALONE!

AND U KNOW MY BDAY IS NEXT TO NEXT WEEK!!

AND U DONT HAVE TO FEEL LONELY AS WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!

IF ARE ALONE THEN CHAT WITH US THEN!

SO ONCE AGAIN

HAVE A VERY NICE HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I am sorry you are sad about your upcoming birthday. You are a precious person and deserve to celebrate the special day you were born. Things in life can cause us to think we are not important or worthy, but that is far from the truth. Each of us are uniquely and wonderfully made. There is only one of you and you should find something to enjoy on your birthday. Including if this man wants to buy you something special that is wonderful. Sounds also like you have some beautiful children. Even at a young age, I am sure they would love to sing Happy birthday to their mother. Do you have some friends who you could celebrate your birthday with? They probably would love to do something fun with you. If your sadness persists, you might want to consider counseling...that has helped me in the past when the sadness became too much. Know you are not alone, we are here for you and want to know we love you. I will be praying for you and I do hope you have a special birthday. Hugs!!!

I've been there, done that. I've been on effexor for a few years, and I'm not particularly depressed (in general), I just hate my birthday. I also am not too fond of people. I have 2 I actually consider friends. By best friend tries but she's working 50+ hrs a week and back in school full time.

I am sorry your best friend is so busy. What is your favorite thing to do? Then make that you birthday gift to yourself. Do you like getting a massage, mani- pedi? Do you like to go to the movies? Do something for yourself. Maybe you can plan an outing with your kids. Something you like to do together. You don't even need to do it because it is your birthday. It will just make the day more enjoyable and you don't have to think as much about it. I have learned it is my choice to address the negative thoughts or choose to find joy in all situations. It has helped me enjoy life more, when I try to see the positive in every situation. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers as your birthday come closer.

Hidden
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Hey you don’t need people to make your birthday special x I understand what you mean , it can feel lonely but you can treat yourself! Get hair done or nails or have a little picnic in the garden or park with kids x get a cake and teach the kids its mummy’s bday today!!!! Blow out those candles together! X you’re special and that’s what makes the day so special x

How did your weekend go? I was praying that you would find some enjoyment for your birthday. Love and Hugs!

Hi 😊 birthday is actually Sunday, but I'm feeling a little better about things. Thanks for asking! (I still hope I'm working on Sunday though lol)

Agora1
Agora1 in reply to Missnoname

Happy Birthday Missnoname! Hope it was a good one xx

Missnoname
Missnoname in reply to Agora1

I'm at work! Yayyyyyy! Lol (I actually mean that, I really need the money lol)

I hope you are doing well. Did Sunday go OK for you? Hugs!

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