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[nini1114]

I’m 16 years old and when I was 13 I was molested by a 40 year old man and I’m going to trial for it now and it’s just made my life even worse , everyday I just get more depressed and some days I don’t wanna live , I came on here for some support because no one really understands so maybe someone on here will

[Stilltrying_]

It is awful that you were abused in this way. I'm sure there will be many of us on here that will understand. Any kind of abuse can lead us to feel suicidal because our lives have been unfairly tarnished and made bad by someone else and we are in so much psychological pain. But you must remember that you are not the one in the wrong and the trial is ongoing and though this will be a very stressful situation for you hopefully justice will be done. You are brave to go to trial so well done for this. It proves you are strong.

Once he is punished for what he has done to you maybe you will be able to get on and continue to lead the life you should have had before he so cruelly denied you for a time.

You never did anything wrong yourself, so do not feel wrong about yourself ever.. You are beautiful.

Please stay around. Gemma xxx

[nini1114 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thank you so much for this I just want to feel okay, I hate how he ruined my life when he should be the one feeling like this. But I’m glad there is still people out there that care about other people’s feelings

[Stilltrying_ in reply to nini1114]

Yes there are good people around and plenty of them on here. You are so right. He is the one in the wrong. Always remember that.

[nini1114 in reply to Stilltrying_]

I will thank you this helped a lot

[CazO46]

I'm so sorry for what has happened to you. I understand how you feel. When I was 12 my friend and I were attacked by a man in a park. This was back in the '80's and there was little support for victims then. We had to go to court but thankfully on the court day he pled guilty and we did not need to give evidence. I can remember feeling sick and nervous and terrified of meeting the man again. I hope you have good support and hold onto the belief that it will all be ok. You are a courageous young lady and you will get through this. If you can accept the support you are offered as I'm sure you are loved X

[nini1114 in reply to CazO46]

Thank you so much , I am hoping he does plead guilty because I have such bad anxiety and every time I see him I break down and can’t control my tears, so I don’t think I would be able to sit on stand and look at him, and I’m so sorry that happened to you people are really terrible and I’m glad you got your Justice

[CazO46 in reply to nini1114]

I truly hope for a good outcome for you too. I remember waiting in a room to be called in and seeing him walk past. I was just about hysterical and wanted to run away I was so afraid. Life goes on and happiness will come to you xx

[nini1114 in reply to CazO46]

Thank you and yeah that’s how I feel too but I know I’ll over come this one day

[Hidden in reply to nini1114]

You will be stronger over the years. I promise.

[Hidden]

Welcome Nini1114,

I'm sorry you are going through so much right now. I'm glad you found this community.

Blessings, peace, and BIG HUGS <3

[nini1114 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you delta1 , I’m glad I did too

[Hidden]

Hi,

I come from a big catholic family. When I was in 4th grade a priest and close friend to our family tried to molest me. I had gotten information from a friends mom just months before about what to do. I managed to get out of the situation, however my older brothers did not. I they got molested and growing was tough as a few became bullies. Later when I was in college I found out what happened to them to make them become so rough on me growing up. I know first hand what that can do to young boys. I am glad that you are seeing justice and that you are brave enough to reach out to us on this site. I can honestly say if you ever need to talk about your experiences you can talk to me as well as other here. You have more strength than you give yourself credit for. Our abuser acts didn't come to light until the statue of limitations ran out. Still several of my siblings managed to get their stories out and that has helped them to heal. I hope you find peace because you are important and you have a long beautiful life ahead of you. Feel free to chat me up any time.

[Hidden]

I understand. I've been there. Good for you for prosecuting. I didn't because my mom said to keep it a secret and I turned out fine. 😩😩😩😩😩