FIRST POST

[CroixNoire]

I started to realize that I don’t want to continue feeling that I’m at war with my mind. The negativity in me is exhausting me now. I thought I could just ignore it and I would be fine but I’m not. I just hope going here will help me.

[Mrspjsmom]

I think it will. The people here are kind, supportive and have wonderful advice to share. Welcome.

[Agora1]

Welcome dear CroixNoire x

Coming here will bring you peace, acceptance, understanding and comfort.

Sharing our journeys with each other makes us not feel so alone with our struggles.

You will soon find that what makes this forum work is that we all care. xx

[Jeff1943]

CroixNoir, feeling you're at war with your mind means fighting and fighting means more tension and stress which is the last thing you need right now. Has war and fighting done you any good? Clearly not, so surely it's time to do the opposite.

Stop fighting the bad feelings and intrusive thoughts. Agree to accept them temporarily. That's right, let them come and accept them just for the time being. Do nothing, no more fighting. Engage in 'masterly inactivity'. Agree to co-exist with your symptoms.

Don't try to avoid them or blank them out with distraction. Face them and accept them for the moment, though occupation is therapeutic.

(BTW what I am describing here is a 50 year old method that has helped millions to recover from anxiety disorders.)

As I'm sure you realise, CroixNoir, anxiety is all about fear. The fear of losing your mind, the fear of some major illness, the fear of losing control. The problem is, fear hormones sensitise your nervous system causing all the symptoms we are so familiar with.

But anxiety cannot make you lose your mind, it cannot inflict some terminal illness upon you, it does not have the power to do that.

When you agree to accept the symptoms rather than fearing and fighting them something wonderful happens. We stop churning out the fear hormones. We stop sensitising our nervous system. And if we let time pass, we begin to recover from the bad feelings and bad thoughts.

You stop being nervously exhausted by negativity. You experience respite and recovery. That's the story, CroixNoir. Basically, you recover by doing nothing!

Maybe think about it.

[NWGal]

I found that my first visit here reminded me that I am not alone. Just knowing this gave me comfort.

[crowningglory19]

Many have found that taking magnesium (magnesium malate is best) and ginseng helped a lot, they calm the mind body and spirit and get rid of sticky negative thoughts the loop around in the mind. Also, getting outside, laying on the grass to get grounded and breathe in fresh air, looking at stars. Speak aloud positive truths to counteract the negative thoughts and things said to us. Also, Volunteering helps us get our of our own misery to help others, which helps us. Call those negatives a lie and correct them to yourself. Protect yourself from those who put that added stress on you and go out and do new challenging things, take classes, go t meetups. Learn new things, meet new people, it will get you out of the pit. HOpe this helps you too!

[Kainan]

There is a lot to be gained from surrender. Letting go of the fight and accepting fully your present and bringing awareness to the now. Listening to your body and inner being, you will find that peace and stillness reside within.