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My ex husband with whom I lived with for over 40 yrs., died in March, 2018. He divorced me in 2004 and we went back together in 2005. We decided not to remarry for financial reasons. Since he, Chuck, died I am lost. The kids, all grown, were there for me while Chuck was in hospital, home hospice care and hospice. Now, a few months later, I find myself without the support I so desperately need. Been thinking lately of checking out of this world.

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We are here for you. Your spirit is a light. Follow it. Whose life can you improve? Start with your own. Self care is your new focus. Take it one tiny step at a time and be ok with going in strange directions, your path will become clearer. Seek a higher purpose now. Seek what YOU wish to seek. Your life is truly yours now. There are no limits. Be very patient with life now. Be gentle with yourself. Nurture your hurting soul. Grieve with others. Find support. It’s what you’ve done above. Such a healthy impulse even if you are crying out in pain. You join us here. We all howl with you into the night air. You’re a beautiful wolf and your journey starts here. With your new pack. You’re not alone in this and you can support others who are deep in grief’s arms. We hold you now and embrace your tears.

Hi I am so sorry to hear about your loss and loneliness etc. I am alone a lot too if you need to talk message me. I am going through it. Prayers for your strength to make it through this difficult time. Hugs

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So sorry for your loss and your pain. Their is no time limit to grief. So don’t be hard on yourself and do your best just to take it moment by moment if you can.

I believe if you are still breathing then you still have a purpose. Something only you can do. Please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. You are not alone. There are a lot of hurt, lonely, grieving people out in the world that need you just as much as you need them.

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Checking out is not your only option. There are many other ways to manage grief. Going through traumatic events can perpetuate painful past experiences. Your spirit has taken a major blow,learning a new teaching centered in spirituality may be an option. I recently started at a Bible based church,it’s very different than my catholic upbringing, but I’m learning so much. There are other ways to get the same outcome. How about going on a woman’s retreat? Just something very different than your normal pertaining to spirituality..

I can only imagine the pain you must feel. Please reconsider checking out. If crying helps you then cry. If sitting at home or staying in bed helps then do that too. Do what you need to cope but please don’t leave us. You life still has purpose.

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