How to tell my friends...

[MilkRoseandTea]

I could not sleep as the result of something most all of us have in common... anxiety. I have other health issues that flare up when I'm anxious, stressed, etc. Recently I have been trying to aid myself in getting better but my anxiety levels have gone up.. and most the people in my life are stressing me out more than normal. I don't know what to do, what to think, how to make a rational decision between friends of mine who I feel hurt by. I am working hard to not be a push over, and for the friends that were in for the ride... are not adjusting well to me Not brushing things off as if it never happened (which i usually did). I feel lonely and isolated.. and have not seemed to find a support group. Idk how to approach others about my anxiety and about needing space more than ever with some, but yet how i'm lonely all over again.

[brokendeepinside29]

sometimes we just need time to figure out what we want and need never be scared to let your friends no you just need space your going threw your personal issues if they are real friends they would respect that decision. we all go threw it they will understand

[hypercat54]

Well with those people you don't want to keep in touch with at the moment just tell them that you are having a lot of personal things to deal with so you won't be around much for a while. Simples. You haven't go to go in to chapter and verse about your anxiety or give them any reasons unless you want to. x

[MilkRoseandTea in reply to hypercat54]

I really wish I had this advice in the beginning,

as I tried to sort things out even when I did not have a clear mind on it at all. So now there's tension and some passive aggression toward me with a few others. One of them forced their way into my plans. It was hard to say no as I do enjoy having them around, but currently being around them with the things I found out that they did hurt me... and now I feel terrible not wanting to tell them I will be in their area and will invite others but not them. Sometimes it is hard for me to think of a simple answer that will give me personal space and a sense of relief to have time to think things threw. Though some may think I had tons of time, I really have so little of my time where I can clearly think through things with out my anxiety.

[hypercat54]

Yes it can be very difficult can't it. Next time you can think clearly try and do a clean up of your personal life. This does need doing sometimes. Work out who you currently want in your life and whom you don't. Then have a think about anyone you want to discard - deciding to drop or downgrade a friend or 2 is not easy but it is absolutely necessary from time to time for your own self protection.

Try not to feel guilty about your friend - you made it clear what you wanted and it was their decision to force themselves on you not yours wasn't it? There is nothing else you can do if you really don't want to see them. x