I Need Help

[Johannys]

Hello, My name is Johannys, I am 19 years old and I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder (TAG) I go to the psychiatrist and the psychologist but I still feel that lately I am a burden for my family and I do not know how not to feel that way. I need help.

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry your feeling like a burden on them...but have you shared your feelings with your family...what do they say....

[Johannys in reply to fauxartist]

They just say "everything depends on you" "you will heal when you want" "you have to heal quickly" "control your thoughts" "you only get sick" "I spend a lot of money on your psychiatrist and your medications". I have never told you that I feel like a burden because I'm not good at expressing myself and I do not know how to do it.

All this is so difficult, because it's not like I want to be sick. and they all say "you have to learn to control yourself but it's easier said than done.

Sorry if you do not understand something or if I have misspellings, it's because my English is not so good😅

Thanks for reading and showing interest😊

[Beevee in reply to Johannys]

Controlling anxiety is not the answer. Giving up trying to control anxiety is the answer. The harder you try to control it, the more the thoughts and feeling come with intensity.

[Ayla-Kat]

Hello, Johannys.

I'm so sorry that you feel like you are a burden on your family. I have GAD as well. I have been suffering since I was a teenager. However, it was only 3 years when I discovered what I had.it helped me figure out strategies that I needed to do to help myself.

My family does not understand this problem and they are not sympathetic. They believe that you just need to be strong and pray. My mother is religious and ignores the science behind anxiety. I can't change her mind so I accept it.

I don't get mad at her because she is limited in her beliefs.

So I look to others such as this forum for help. I go on YouTube and look for videos and I go to the library to read lots of books on the subject. You will benefit by knowing all you can . I will lists some tips and ideas that helped me.

-Medication can help if you are really need relief. I was in a stressful situation and I needed the chemical assistance to pull through.

I am not on any meds at the moment. I am trying natural ways. It is difficult but I am curious to see if they are helpful.

- supplements- vitamin D and magnesium

-NO Caffeine- I stress this. Try some chamomile tea

- a worry journal to write my feelings and write down problem. Write down possible solutions .

-schedule a worry time. Every day1 hour maximum. Then you don't spend the whole day worrying.

- find self soothing techniques such as taking a walk in nature

- play with children or animals

-exercise

-find guided meditation on YouTube

- get a Pinterest account and make boards on anxiety and self care-

-research or go to the library to learn about GAD.

- take care of yourself first then you can take care of others.

I hope these are helpful.

Hugs and healing

😻 Ayla-Kat

[Johannys in reply to Ayla-Kat]

I feel so identified with you, because my mom is the same and it is complicated because she is the one who pays my treatments and my medications. It is stressful when your family does not understand what is happening to you, that makes you feel guilty. I will follow your advice. Thank you so much for your interest. I hope we keep in touch.

Sorry if you do not understand something or if I have misspellings, it's because my English is not so good.

Hugs!☺️☺️☺️

[Ayla-Kat in reply to Johannys]

Hi, Johannys.

Yes! We can keep in touch. You can follow me on my profile. Don't worry about your English. My Spanish is not very good. I'd like to learn though. Google translate can help.

I understand that you feel guilty about your mom paying for treatment but you are receiving treatment from a professional psychiatrist, so it is necessary until you figure out how to help yourself. Even if your mom doesn't understand just know that it is a real condition that people suffer from. The same way people who are diabetic need insulin. Try not to feel guilty. When you get back on your feet, I'm sure you will be able to help your mom.

I still struggle with GAD, but I try and help myself everyday. YouTube has so many videos. I listen to advice. Maybe there are you tubers who have a channel in Spanish.

Try guided meditation on YouTube to help you relax and give you a break from worrying.

This forum is so helpful. People are caring and non-judgement all. I appreciate when people share advice that has helped them. Keep sharing here and people will help you out. You won't feel so alone.

Take care my new friend

Hugs and healing

😻 Ayla-Kat

[Beevee]

To recover from anxiety, look up a website called Anxiety No More.co.uk and follow the advice. The blog is also very helpful.

If you learn to accept your anxiety in the same way that you have learnt to accept that you cannot change your mother’s point of view, you will recover. Knowledge and understanding of anxiety lays the foundations to recovery. Acceptance gradually takes away the fear which is the root cause of anxiety and the single reason it hangs around. Lose your fear of the symptoms and they will gradually disappear. This is how to recover naturally.

[Johannys in reply to Beevee]

Thank you very very much. You do not know how much I appreciate your comment, not everyone believes that this is really a problem. Thanks for your help, I will follow your advice. I have hope that I will be able to recover soon.☺️☺️☺️

[Beevee in reply to Johannys]

All my posts on this forum are based on the knowledge I gained about anxiety during my recovery. I followed the teachings of Dr Claire Weekes and her book called Essential Help For Your Nerves. The title may differ slightly as it has been published several times over the past 40 years. I also bought the book which you will find on the website I mentioned. The teachings follow the same principles which is all about accepting your anxiety, doing nothing to rid yourself of the thoughts and feelings and learning to let go. It takes practice to develop this attitude but it works.

[Ayla-Kat in reply to Beevee]

Thank you, Beevee. I will look up your website and suggested author.