Running out of ideas

[Yoshi123]

I dont know where to start or what to say really apart from i need some form of help/advice but guessing thats why we all end up on here right?

I will try keep it short as possible. So my partner has anxiety, depression and is bi polar. We have been together for 5 years now and in own place living our lives. Shes always been honest with me about everything and ive always tried my best to support her, be there for her and pick her up on her worst days.

The last few months have been tough we have argued alot amd lost a bit of passion between us but slowly getting back on track. However im finding it harder and harder each day to help because her lets say wellness is getting worse. Im not going anywhere i love this woman but im running out of ideas.

She has recently told me she feels numb all the time and that shes been so close to starting to self harm again which she hasnt done for over 8-10 years. There are times i look at her and see the happiness is slipping away from and theres nothing i can do besides what i am already doing. Shes been worried about me too because ive started to have days where i just cant cheer up so she knows im getting affected by it all now but i dont want to tell her and be honest it will break her heart to know its starting to hurt me.

Well i have found myself now on here asking what to do sat here at 5am with tears in my eyes before i gp to work.

Any advice os appriciated wether helping me, my partner or both.

Thanks all.

[Hidden]

Have you tried a support group for caretakers of a loved one with mental illness?

[Yoshi123 in reply to Hidden]

I didnt realise there was any if im honest. Ive tried my family and close friends but obviously some things dont make sense to others. I will have to look in to it. Thank you.

[Hidden]

Hi Yoshi.

Sorry for the struggles you are both facing.

Taking care of you is important, to enable you to support her.

So a support group for you would be good in my opinion.

Best wishes xx

[Yoshi123 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for the support. I do look after myself just every now and again i have a down day myself. Ive looked at support groups in my area but there are none just numbers for mind and samaritans. Will have to dig deeper i guess.

[Hidden in reply to Yoshi123]

Hi. Yes it depends where you live what is available to you. That’s a shame. Hope you find something to help you out. Mind can be helpful with signposting you to some relevant help., so maybe worth asking them what’s possibly available. Or gp surgery.

[Yoshi123 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah i am going to call both after work and see what options are available. Thanks you and to others that have posted.

[Hidden in reply to Yoshi123]

Best wishes to you ..

[Yoshi123]

She does have a career she is passionate for helping young adults and children with autism and learning difficulties, she loves it. Its most of the time she is afftected not just when shes down or alone.