Hello, new here. I’ve been struggling lately. I’m 31 male, I’ve been married for two years and have a 16 m/o daughter. My favorite friendships have dried up since I’ve been married and have no family close by. I live in a small community in the middle of nowhere. I feel alone and overwhelmed. I feel like when I talk to my wife it makes things worse, in all fairness it’s usually because I’m upset, frustrated and crying. She can’t talk to me when I’m crying. I feel overwhelmed. I’ve talked to my therapist and she says I need to take care of myself and be more confident. I’m having a hard time doing that both schedule wise and motivation. I work 10hr days and have a 75 minute commute one way.
She says I have a mild depression and anxiety. Ive been suffering from sexual performance issues, crying, and emotional issues. I feel like my wife is critical of me and I get defensive easily, but when I calm down and reflect later I question whether she really was.
I used to hike and Mtn bike before we got married, but I feel so busy now that I can’t seem to fit it in any more. I took half a day off yesterday to go for a hike with my wife and daughter, but it didn’t happen. I ended up getting in an argument with my wife over it. She told me I need to take care of myself and figure this out, to make it happen. I went for a hike and a drive afterwards and felt refreshed. I dreaded going home though. When I got home my wife was still mad and I feel like crap again today.
Sorry for the long rambling post, but sometimes I just wish I had someone to talk to. Looking for hope that things are going to get better.