Going through the motions...

[kinners]

First post...actually first time I acknowledge I can’t get better on my own.

Going though the motions is not enough anymore...

Everyone tells me that as long as I’m getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising and going to work that eventually I will feel better. I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am in my career and home but I have an extreme sense of loneliness and high anxiety. The doctors and counselors keep saying that I seem fine because I’m able to go about a normal routine but I just don’t want to put the effort in anymore. All the hard work seems irrelevant when I feel so lonely every step of the way. I cry when I hear laughter or see a couple holding hands...

I’m so tired of forcing myself through the motions...

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Hi Kinners,

Glad u posted. Many people in this group feel or know how it feels with what ur going thru. I am fighting my way back from a couple years long major depressive episode. I had to cut back on my cleaning business and drop out of school several times. I know what ur saying that ur still quite functional and it's a real fight to keep up. I know how u feel about what ur going thru with the drs. I'm sorry to hear that.

Do reward urself for ur persistence. It's a uphill battle. Remember the things that ur keeping up on. You will get thru this. U r strong. Seeking support is a sign of health. Take care!

[hb_kenzie]

I completely understand and I feel like this a lot. I feel like I’m just existing and not really truly living my life. I feel like “why should I even bother anymore?” Im here for you if you ever need to or want to talk.

[CazO46]

Hi, looks can be deceiving. On the outside you seem fine but underneath you are suffering. Loneliness is very painful and can sap you of you energy, happiness and hopes for your future. But perhaps your life doesn't need to be like that. I don't know if it's friends or a partner or both you are looking to include in your life. I think most people feel better when they are connected to others . It might mean putting yourself out there and knowing you might feel vulnerable but it will be worth it to have the life you want to live. I think this sight is a great start to reach out and chat to others. Keep in touch and good to talk to you X

[FinnPanda]

You couldn’t have said it better.. It’s like you described exactly what’s going on my head.

Honestly i’m feeling exactly the same way.

Let’s get through this together. I started my medication for really bad depression 4 months ago and my psychotherapy is starting next month but i feel like i can get more answers and help/support from here.

Thank you so much for posting this, it made this a lot easier for me. 🙏🏻

[fauxartist]

I'm glad your here with us sharing kinners....And your right...you must be doing a really good job wearing a suit of 'I'm all right'....because when others see you as 'so together' they somehow don't want to think of you any other way, sort of bursts their bubble...but it's not about anyone else's happiness, it's about you and your happiness...and I'm glad your wanting to get in touch with what's going on inside that has you feeling anxious and sad. We all want to be loved...some how it seems to elude us for so long...but I had to learn to love myself a little better first before I could move forward....the best I could at the time anyway....didn't understand why I was so sad and lonely...I have depression....and a few other things. But when we are good at selling ourselves publicly...sometimes even our doctors are not seeing us for what we truly need. Try going to a doctor that specializes in anxiety and depression, someone who you don't already have an established relationship with. Reading posts here and comments along with sharing is also very healing I think.

[gogogirl]

You are being authentic here, and that is what counts. We are here. Lonliness is not joke- in fact there is a big article about that in psychology today. Can you get an animal companion where you live? That can make a big difference. Welcome.

[YoungSimba]

Hi Kinners

I understand completely. People who don’t have anxiety or depression think that if you aren’t bed ridden, constantly crying, or suicidal that there can’t be anything wrong with you. Like it needs to be proven or shown to be taken seriously. But we know different . I am sorry you are going through the motions as I am too. My only advice would be to take it day by day, if you can do any one thing that makes you happy, do it! I’m sorry I can’t offer you more because I am also looking for suggestions because the motions sometimes get the best of me. But welcome, this site is great for support and showing that you are not alone. ❤️

[kinners]

Reading all your replies has helped me get through the day. I’ve also been listening to an audiobook called the untethered soul by Michael Singer which resonated with me today. Hopefully someone on this page can also find it helpful.