Anxiety

[blackbats]

Hi I am Kailynn ! I joined today and i am looking for support and help :). I am a senior in highschool, in the beginning of the year my two best friends who i had been friends with for 3 years dropped me. They cussed me out,called me names, saif they were dealing and “putting up with me”, along with lots of other mean things. It’s now almost December I struggle every day to feel happy wondering why they left me and if i am ever going to get friends. On the daily i overthink why i dint have any friends and am scared if they’re going to be fake like my previous friends and if they will just “put up with me”. At this point i’m unsure what to do i feel so alone.

[Dolphin14]

blackbats/Kailynn

Welcome to the community.

People can be so cruel. It's never easy to be the victim of this type of behavior, having people turn on you can escalate your anxiety and depression for sure.

This is a very supportive community of all ages. Many of us have gone through what you are experiencing.

We are here for you

🐬

[blackbats in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you so much ❤️

[AllDone67]

Welcome! I hope you find support and understanding here. I am sorry that you are having a hard time but there are many here who have had similar experiences, including myself. Reaching out, as you have done today, is the first step to feeling less alone.

[blackbats in reply to AllDone67]

that means so much thank you

[hypercat54]

Hi nice to meet you and welcome.

I am in the UK and am a bit confused as I thought high schoolers were under 18? Its a different system here so maybe I'm getting confused?

[blackbats in reply to hypercat54]

i started school a little later because there is a cut off age to get into school. my birthday is 10/31 and i was a little older so i’m graduating being 18 !

[b1b1b1]

How old are you?

[blackbats in reply to b1b1b1]

18

[Starrlight]

❤️

[MayoKetchup]

Hi blackbats. Welcome to the community. I’m sorry to hear about your friends, but you are still so young. You have a whole life ahead of you with people to meet and experience and opportunities to make more friends. I wouldn’t worry about their reasons of leaving you. The wondering will eat you up instead of moving forward to heal and grow from them. I have experienced the same situation before. Although I knew their reasons, I didn’t deem it good enough for them to drop me, so it led to more questions than me moving on. I hope you find what you need here.

[blackbats in reply to MayoKetchup]

how do i move on and not let it eat me up all the time

[PenguinQueen44 in reply to blackbats]

Teenagers can be cruel and not think about how their words can hurt. Put yourself out there and talk to other students....eventually you will find your people.

You move on by finding your happy place with yourself. You do not need others to be happy....find zen with yourself and then you can be better with others.

[blackbats in reply to PenguinQueen44]

I am trying my best thank you so much. At this point i’m just so scared to talk to people in fear of them treating me the way they did

[PenguinQueen44 in reply to blackbats]

I understand your fear, but you can't let fear control your future.....in life people will disappoint you....in order to find the people you deserve, you might have to go through some jerks. If you put yourself out there and not worry, but just accept that some people don't mesh well.....you will find your people

Never give up trying....fear should not stop you...teenagers can be cruel, but everyone has to ride the roller coaster of life....sometimes your up and sometimes your down.

Life will get better.....my high school life sucked, but getting to college I met a lot of interesting people and I found people I meshed with well. Maybe that will happen for you.

[Ticktick]

Hi KailynnWelcome to the real world !

Though you are very very young !

Life throws curveballs

People can be mean

And you must love YOURSELF more in order to hold your own

You never know what's round the corner?

Real friends who will love you ,accept you for who you are ,and will want you in their lives ,always ,are waiting to meet you

Just be hopeful ?

Wait ?

Remember you are unique

As are snowflakes

And truly special

God bless you with joy love and light dear child

Take care

Sending love

[blackbats in reply to Ticktick]

that is so seeet of you thank you so much ☺️

[Chilidoglover]

I’m sorry this happened and thank you for sharing with us. How can we support you?

[blackbats in reply to Chilidoglover]

i don’t know how to move forward

[blimpsgo180]

Hi Kailynn. As you get older, you'll come to realize this is a problem with your two friends, and not with yourself. Also, these moments may seem important now, but they're just drops in the bucket in the grand scheme of life. Don't take it too personally, it's really not about you.

[blackbats in reply to blimpsgo180]

that is a really good way to think about it thank you !

[catsrock]

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry that happened to you. They sound like not good people to be friends with so I'm glad you're away from them. This is a good community for support. Welcome!

[blackbats in reply to catsrock]

thank you so much

[DJB74]

Hey there Black Bats. I just lost my son 16 to lock up in juvenile detention because of his poor choices with friends. I am a full time substitute and spend a good deal of time in Middle schools and High schools. One of my greatest opportunities in subbing is to sit and listen to understand not just tell them what they should do or what they are doing wrong. But genuinely trying to understand the way they feel. During my teen years, I was in the same boat as you. However I let other people and trying to fit in prevent me from experiencing my youth. Don't let that happen to you. I am here like everyone else here has said message or reach out any time. Head up, heart strong, eyes open to the future friend.

[blackbats in reply to DJB74]

I’m so sorry about that. That means a lot to me thank you, i will try my best even when times get rough

[Hachipoppy55]

I’m sorry this happened to you, similar happened to my daughter. It’s been very devastating for her and they were friends for 8-9 years. I think she is better off without them. You probably deserved better friends to begin with but didn’t see their true colors at first. I feel like this happens more with people your age, as you are growing and changing rapidly (even though you probably feel the same) But thankfully you’re a senior and won’t have to deal with this high school stuff much longer.

[Ticktick]

You are more than welcome dear Blackbats Goodluck !