going away and coming back

[Thing0317]

I went away for work for 3 months.

I feel like I’m not needed here or missed anymore.

I didn’t expect everyone or everything to stop because I was away but I did think I was going to feel right in when I came back.

That didn’t happen.

Im feeling a little lost here

I’ve always had a hard time adjusting to change and this change is hitting me different.

[Thing0317]

I was referring to the setting. The life that I left and the one that I came back to.

[blackcat64013]

Hi,

I am with Hockey Lover, just a tad confused.

I want to say this is the very time you are needing us, to help support you as transition to something new.

Change is not always good for all people. Some of us manage change better than others. I put my hand up to admit I am one of those who needs the care and support to manage change.

No-one is judged here for needing a little extra support or for taking a time out from the site.

[Thing0317 in reply to blackcat64013]

that’s me. It’s always been me. I do not want to talk about this with my wife because I do not want to make her feel bad about it. She’s been pulling all the way by herself all this time. Me feeling with this makes me feel selfish to be honest

[Thing0317]

I’ve always had a hard time with change. I feel like I’ve been changing my whole life. I guess I just thought I was at a point where things were not going to change much while I was gone.

It was hard coming back to a different setting where I feel like I’m not a part of anything is happening.

I’m trying to adjust to it but it like I keep getting hit with something different everyday. Specially when It comes to my kids.

That’s why I decided to chat here.

Maybe someone else can help me see things from a different perspective

[CLB1125]

there’s a song that goes, the only thing that stays the same is changes. I hate change, I want everything to remain the same but that doesn’t happen. Big changes scare the hell out of me and can send me into a tailspin. It’s not selfish. We all deal with these struggles. We are here to support you. Glad you came.