Feeling anxiety once again

[lovedogs51511]

My aunt Judy and mom are coming to see my condo in mid May. I've always had such extreme anxiety around ppl but family too. I'm thinking they love me but I still in my head think I'm the one with mental illness. I guess its the feeling of I don't want to seem different or weird compared to them. I'm sure it's all my self hatred talk which I cannot for the life of me stop saying thru out the day. I've always been poor and now I've been on disability for years. They are all very successful and I've never had any money. Its not them its my negative b----t I'm trying to stop saying to myself. Anyways anyone else say these horrible things about themselves or is it just me? Just don't want to feel alone with this. Thanks friends for all your great advice💝😀😎

[hypercat54]

Hi I can only say to you if it was another member of your family who was poor and suffering from mental health problems how would you feel about them?

I am betting you would still love them and perhaps even more than the others as they would need you more.

The best thing you could do for your loved ones is to show them you are feeling better about yourself and leading a more normal life. x

[lovedogs51511 in reply to hypercat54]

Oh thank you so much. I'd love them even more cause I'd understand what they were going thru. Very good way to look at things!!! That helped so much!!! I'm finally feeling good about life So yea ill show them how good I'm doing for once in 45 years. Thank you!!!

[hypercat54 in reply to lovedogs51511]

Good for you! It sounds like your family love you very much and want you to be happy which is fantastic. A lesser family than yours might have tried to add to your suffering so you are very lucky to have them. x

[lovedogs51511 in reply to hypercat54]

Oh yea I'm extremely grateful for how supportive and how loving they are!! We're all so very close. Especially my older brother and mom. So I'm just happy I get to go hiking with them during May. Hope to have a blast!! Hope its not to hot!!! Thanks soooo much for your advice! Your awesome!!!

[hypercat54 in reply to lovedogs51511]

Not awesome so much as old! xx

[lovedogs51511 in reply to hypercat54]

Your so silly! I'm old as well. Well 45 I guess is middle age but not liking getting older. Out of shape and smoke way to much. I guess I'm doing it to myself but I'm addicted to sugar. So hard to give up. Smoking helps me not eat as much. Just lost some weight. Went from 235 to 213. Its a start!!

[Thicks75 in reply to lovedogs51511]

It's ok. Take one day at a time. That's what I do.i just quit smoking yesturday with the patch. Yes, smoking helps you lose weight. Yes, I was smoking way to much to that's why I quit. Have a great day.

[lovedogs51511 in reply to Thicks75]

Oh that's so great you quit!!! I tried the other day when I ran out and I went so crazy!!😨😩 I wish the patch would work for me but I smoked while on it. Not good. Chantix helped me quit for 11 months but smoked on that too. I take it day by day too. Congrats again!!! Have a great day!!

[Thicks75 in reply to lovedogs51511]

I'm sorry but I had went back this morning but I'm going back on it again today

[lovedogs51511 in reply to Thicks75]

Your doing great!!! Making an hour or two between smokes is very hard so I'm proud of ya for actually quitting!!!

[Thicks75 in reply to lovedogs51511]

I'm back on the patch now

[lovedogs51511 in reply to Thicks75]

I'm so glad that works for you. I wish it would work for me but I have zero self control. Lol. It works for my brother too. He's quit smoking for quite some time now. Hang in there!! Just remember cigarettes are a very nasty habit!! Stinky, kills your lungs, bad for your health etc!!! I'm 100 percent behind ya!!!😀😀

[Thicks75 in reply to lovedogs51511]

Thanks

[hypercat54]

Ha ha I am old enough to be your mother x

[Hidden]

You , Beautiful One, are way to hard on yourself....You know your family loves you..now it;s high time You Love You!!!! I love you!!! XXX

[lovedogs51511 in reply to Hidden]

Awww my dear Lisa!!! That was so nice of you to say!!! I keep trying and working on day by day. That's all I can do!!😀😀💝

[Hidden]

You have got to look in the mirror and give yourself positive affirmations! Actions my dear friend! I believe in you, now game on...I challenge you! I'll do it to! Love ya!!! XXX

[lovedogs51511 in reply to Hidden]

Lol silly!! Ill say them. Its sooo hard to believe them tho. I'm sooo happy your family surprised you. That's wonderful!!😀😀 You deserve only the best!! Love ya💝😀💝

[Hidden in reply to lovedogs51511]

Hope will grow if you believe! Love ya!!! XXX

[gogogirl]

You are not alone in this at all believe me. You're right- it's probably the negative self talk- but you have been through a lot so it's hard to get rid of- I know. Remember they are coming to see YOU. I'll bet you're a great friend and listener to them as well. I'll bet if anyone had a physical or mental problem you'd be there for them Unfortunately not all people are like that- so it's great that you have such a nice family.

[Cory570]

Hello, I too have been struggling with anxiety which has caused me to miss work recently and I am trying to avoud the negative self talk. But it can be really challenging because I am used to being productive and independent. I know when I am dealing with anxiety I often dread spending time with people because I even family because I get embarrassed how jittery I can be especially over the past few months.