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[Jacks32]

Hi I'm Jack's 32 and I'm new to the page I've suffered with depression and anxiety for at least 5 years one Zoloft 50 mg and lorazepam 0.5 mg my daughter seems to think that I suffer from bipolar which she suffers from that and we think her brother she is 39 and my son is 45. Some of the troubles that I've been experiencing one is babysitting issues for my granddaughter we live on Social Security and Social Security disability that my wife's on we have a very limited income. Wife drives 35 miles one way to babysit our granddaughter she's did this for five years not once has our stepdaughter said Mom here's 35 bucks a week for doing this or at the end of the year with tax time comes around she gets 4000 bucks hear your mom hears $500 but no and we sit here and hard to make ends meet this year alone she's put 17,000 miles on the only car we have doing this as I said and each time I say anything about this matter it causes big issues not knowing what to do am I wrong . The stepdaughter has a boyfriend that lives with her but does not contribute to the child's upkeep at all he does do his part with like the electric water house payment Pays His half that's it any help any ideas it's troubling to me. That's just one thing going on. Any suggestions or help or talk about it greatly appreciated.

[gerg]

Communication is key. Talk to your daughter, and see what she has to say. If I offered my parents money to sit for my child they would refuse it, but I may offer it anyways.

[fauxartist]

Hi Jacks...glad your sharing....I have a question...have you been diagnosed with Bipolar and are these the medications your doctor has given you. It sounds like you have a lot going on in the family...I understand it's hard to handle it when you have a different view on things than your partner does...I see nothing wrong with you asking your step daughter to contribute for gas for the trips, as it sounds like your wife is not getting paid to watch the kids, most grandmas wouldn't ... but at the same time it would just be good will to offer some money for gas...maybe your wife has refused money from them, and you don't know really. From my own experience with similar issues around grown kids pitching in...your in murky waters...I don't cross my partner on certain issues around them...and that's just the way it is. In the long run...complaining to them changes nothing, and just makes me upset, so I'm better off just accepting certain things for what they are and keep busy doing my own thing....everything is good...and I'm okay...so better off just letting certain things go...

[Hidden]

Hi Jacks! <3 What I can tell you is that you have my support in what you go through and I hope Very Much that this is worked out soon for you all. Thank you for sharing with us a bit about what's going on, to be honest I think we're all having different hard times here, so I'm pretty confident that you can get support (Yeah!!) --- definitely. I regret not having advice or whatnot, but just know you're in my thoughts/prayers & I know it's rough in different ways. I offer my friendship & support!!!! xxxx

[Butterfly2Be]

Hi Jacks. Maybe she offered money and mom refused. I dont know. Does grandmother complain about not getting anything?

Maybe your granddaughter is her little ray of sunshine that she looks forward to seeing and would drive many miles to do just that. 😊

I know its hard, but maybe try not to let it bother you. Or talk to your wife about how you feel. Give her a chance to listen to your concerns.

I pray this weight is lifted off you. ❤