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I’ve been coping with depression for about 35 years. I’m almost 48 and have virtually no support network left. I’m single with no kids. My mom (the only person always there for me) passed, my dad and I don’t have a good relationship, my sister and I don’t talk, and my nieces and nephews don’t bother with me. There is no extended family that I’m close to. Now it feels like the couple friends I have are pulling away. I barely hear from them unless they need something. If I want to do something I have to do it by myself. The loneliness is becoming unbearable. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried therapy most medicines there is no support group near me. I feel if I could just find one person to be there for me, it would be easier to live in this painful horrible world. But no one shows any interest in me. I don’t know why I can’t find friends or a significant other. There must be something so wrong with me that people don’t like me or want to be around me. How do I manage to live the rest of my life is such pain and loneliness? I can’t take it anymore.

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EndUser13 profile image
EndUser13

Welcome to the forums, there are a lot of cool people here, hopefully, some of them can virtually help fill the gaps in your social life.

I'm afraid I have no easy answers for such a broad question, not knowing details, and not being a physician. Fortunately, the covid pandemic has impressed upon many health providers the potential and importance of telemedicine, so even if there is nothing close to you there's the possibility of finding something online. It's worth looking into... even if you haven't had much luck with medications in the past there are always different ones and different methods of therapy could help, you won't know if they're worth your time until after you give them a try (I understand this is a double-edged predicament).

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Louie35

I know exactly how you feel! I might as well have written those words myself. Please continue to reach out, this forum is a good place with good people. You are not alone! Fair winds and calm seas to you in the future! We are here, I am here!

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RedBird09 in reply to Louie35

I'm here with you all as well. 🤗🙏 I have been thru it all. I know exactly how you feel.

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Arymretep

Welcome, I think we all go through times when we feel everyone is so busy with their own lives they’ve not got time for us, sometimes we have to reach out , there’s lots of people on here who feel the same so I hope you will join in, we are all here for each other 👍

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samack

I feel as you do, and I am older than you. Going through these past years alone is devastating. This site helps to express yourself and get support. Know others have or are going the same path you are walking.

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Frankie24

I have been suffering with Bipolar depression since age 50. I am now 62 years old. I wake up crying every morning and do the same when I go to bed at night. I still have to get up and function as I have dialysis three days a week and need to shower and leave home to do so. I have pretty much shut down to the rest of life. I have no friends. Thank God I still have my mom, however she is eighty and I worry about her. I also have a 29 yro. son who comes over several times a week and I cook dinner for us and we watch tv. Otherwise I go to dialysis and keep to myself. I was working up till seven months ago when I had to switch from home peritoneal dialysis to in center hemodialysis. I hate every moment of it and hate my life. I was on a good medication regime which seemed to work for some time but now I am in the depths of despair. I have a great therapist as well. I guess the chronic illness just adds to my depression. I wish I had some great advice. I try to , as hard as it is stay motivated to do something positive everyday. Some days it’s just taking a shower. Cooking makes me feel good. Honestly depression especially chronic is the worst and I will just close by saying I emphasize with you . I send you many positive vibes. There are other treatments for depression that are very effective and don’t involve drugs or therapy. I am not eligible since I have also suffered a stroke several years ago. Don’t give up. People care. You just need to keep on keeping on.💚. I wish you all the best.

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RedBird09 in reply to Frankie24

Absolutely feel the way you do. You summed it all up. Yes, that is me as well. I was ashamed to admit it, but I'm not the only one this way. Thank you! I just realized that was me when I read it. Thanks for sharing 🤗🙏

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ScooterJoe

When I come here and read the other posts, I feel like I am sitting down with friends. I say 'when I come here' because for me it is like leaving my space and coming to a place where I am welcomed. With each new post I read, it seems as though I find something that I can say yes I've been there too. To find others, like you, who say they have been depressed from a very early age has been remarkable. No one condemns you when you admit that you don't feel like taking a shower or getting out of bed or moving out of your recliner. No one says to just shake it off or get some exercise because someone out there who is reading your words is or has been there. We could all give you suggestions where to go or what to do to alleviate your loneliness but I believe that it is YOUR loneliness and ultimately it is you who has to find your place of peace. Others may reach out to you but many times even that doesn't eliminate the feeling. I often say the pandemic was made for me because it gave me an excuse to stay at home! I've had a lot of alone time since I was a child with parents always working, a brother who was doing his own thing and my own shyness. I am now 71 years old, have a husband who is a workaholic and, like you, a family who thinks I'm invisible. But, I guess I've learned to do MY own thing too--and a lot of it from the comfort of my recliner! I realize we were made to be social beings and I wish you the best. Just remember you can always find someone to talk with here. (And I too have been depressed since I was a teenager and have been through an arsenal of pills that didn't help!)

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PeaceNeed

I know how u feel. Its not you. People just dont want to deal with the problems we face.

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Jane_5060 in reply to PeaceNeed

Very true!

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101315

Every day you wake up is a small success. The act of making your bed can give you a sense of accomplishment and what better way to start a day than being successful and accomplished.

You are not alone here. I have met some wonderful people in my few short months and while I still struggle with the same concerns you have, I know there is someone willing to give me some of their valuable time when I am feeling low.

Stop by anytime and just talk about your feelings. I promise someone can relate and you will start feeling less alone.

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Katxz

Hi there! I'm sorry that I couldn’t give many suggestions on making you feel better as I'm in the puddle too, but I was encouraged by my therapist to use social media platforms to make new friends, there are some options out there that are worth a try! I know it might be hard to get started with it, you can try to create an account first, then fill in ur profile tomorrow. I didn't have high hope for it but I met someone who's so supportive and encouraging she makes me feel less alone in a foreign country. I used Hey Vina and Bumble BFF they are both okay, or FB group which I never tried but some host events near u. I'm sure you'll feel okay soon! Don't ever think that you're at fault or that you won't find anyone for the rest of ur life because it's just not true :) First post ever I hope this helps a little.

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