Severe morning anxiety/racing fearful thoughts

[Aspergirl47]

Hey Guys...Has anyone found a way to stop/reduce morning panic feelings and horrible racing negative thoughts? Keep getting thoughts I will die soon and I'm alone/isolated ...I try to tell myself to stop the silly thoughts but it doesn't help...Anyon going through this or has gone through it? Appreciate any help... x

[Agora1]

Hi Aspergirl47, yes there is a way to stop the horrible morning panic feelings as well as the racing negative thoughts. Telling yourself to "stop the silly thoughts" won't work if you don't truly believe in what you are saying.

Our brain is smart, it knows when we mean business and when they are just empty words. What you put into your mind just before bed at night will be what you wake up to. Unless you rid yourself of the day's events when you hit that pillow, you may fall asleep but your subconscious mind will be playing the negative parts of the day, all night long. As soon as you open your eyes, it's as if a switch has been turned on and those morning panic feelings come roaring through.

Finding ways to let go of stress before falling asleep can give your mind a clear slate. Listening to relaxation or meditating as well as deep breathing can be your eraser for the day's events. As soon as you open your eyes in the morning, tune into your meditation, relaxation, affirmations and deep breathing. Adrenaline may be higher in the morning but using these tools can help reduce the impact it has on your brain and solar plexus.

Give yourself about 20 min in bed preparing for the day and then it's best to get up and move. Use up that extra adrenaline. Wash, dress, have breakfast and prepare physically and mentally for what you need to do for the day. Do not allow negative thoughts to take over. This is when you can tell "Anxiety" to go take a hike. You've got better things to do and you and only you are in control of your life. I know it may sound crazy that we have to go through this whole scenario unlike others who can literally jump out of bed without a care in the world. But we work with what we've been given in life. Accepting this and not fighting it, makes life bearable. You can do this x

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Agora1]

Hi Agora1...Good to hear from u Hope u are keeping well...Sound advice...its horrible having to go through this but as u say..accepting it makes life bearable....I think I always compare myself to others around me that,as u say,seem to be able to get up and not bother at all...that's a distant memory...I will be going to bed soon and I will listen to a relaxation cd that's something I don't usually do...the morning just seems unbearable, I have Ocd so I don't know if that's whats making me have the same cycle every day...its very draining...and the thoughts are so morbid and frightening....but I know I have to try and gain control....I will follow all u have said and kick its ass... Appreciated... xx

[Agora1 in reply to Aspergirl47]

Goodnight dear....I hope you are in a safe, relaxing sleep by now. xx

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Agora1]

Hi Agora1...I put on the cd last night and it did make me sleepy...I fell asleep for maybe 4/5 hours but woke with a panic attack unfortunately...I'm still shaking just now...I got up and put a relax cd on and it helped a little..i have a very stressful situation and I wonder if that is the problem....very toxic person I have to deal with every weekend and I notice I get worse then...I am glad I now have info on the term Gaslighting.....as I now know that's what hes been doing for years and I fell for it.....I just don't know how to cope well with these people...Thank u....you are so helpful ...not just to me but a lot of people on here...hope we can do the same for u if needed... xx

[Susan512]

I wake up every morning with the same feeling, flesh shaking, hard to breathe, bad anxiety, you would think we would wake up refresh since we been sleeping but my doctor told me that my dreams and racing thought while sleeping still happen 😞

[dillydally1 in reply to Susan512]

I am the same, I dread mornings because I feel so bad, nervous, headache, tearful, tight stomach, have been taking fluoxetine for 3 weeks now. I know it takes time, not sleeping to good either. any advice welcomed. take care everyone x

[Aspergirl47 in reply to dillydally1]

Hey dillydally1....I too dread the morning as I'm always fearful....but I guess in a way...by us dreading the morning...that these thoughts probably keep it going...but sometimes I cant seem to stop these thoughts...vicious cycle....the relaxation cds seem to give some relief I was on fluoxetine for a short while...but made me really agitated and had to stop...but everyones different....I also have Aspergers and were realy sensitive to medication....Hope u feel better soon... xx

[dillydally1 in reply to Aspergirl47]

take care and hope your mornings get easier x

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Susan512]

Sorry to hear that Susan512....its horrible isn't it? I agree with the Dr...the mind still carries all those negative/worrying thoughts ....I commonly have panic attacks at night and I waken up terrified....Do u ever put on a relaxation cd lying in bed before sleep? Agora1 suggested that and I did feel more sleepy than usual....Hope u ok...I'm here if u ever need to chat x

[Susan512 in reply to Aspergirl47]

I pray the rosary and I watch religious sermon before I go to sleep and it relaxes me and I sleep well until the morning that's when I wake up with heart palpitations, flesh shaking and feeling fatigue, this is been going on for too long and I'm exhausted 😞

[pink83737]

I have gone through this, I know the feeling, you aren’t alone. What I recommend doing is try finding a book that interests you or a movie or funny shows on Netflix to boost your mood. Or even try essential oils! They have helped me a ton when I feel anxious. By the way you are not gonna die because of anxiety! It cannot kill you

[Aspergirl47 in reply to pink83737]

Hi pink83737....Thank u for the advice...I used to study Holistic/Complementary Therapy loved essential oils...especially Lavender drops in the bath... The thoughts I get in the morning are always about anxiety killing me if it goes on any longer!!!! their so frightening at the time and as u say they cant actually kill u ....Appreciate your help....Hope we all find some peace x

[rigbear]

i was so bad the other day i telephoned the samaritans!!!! do you have anybody you can talk to??

[Aspergirl47 in reply to rigbear]

Hi rigbear....No one who really wants to listen unfortunately...Dysfunctional family I don't feel I can go too....they stress me a lot which makes things a lot worse... I have Aspergers and I have the type of family who use this instead of supporting me...I have phoned the Samaritans before too...sometimes u just need someone who can listen...I hope it helped u chronic anxiety is awful..I try to distract myself with my cat...if its really severe nothing helps...Do u have a pet rigbear? might be a thought if not....x

[rigbear in reply to Aspergirl47]

i totally understand with family only this week ive chosen to cut out my mother and step father as as much as i long for there support and love it always comes at a price,so ive decided enough is enough of that, ive learned that the people we expect to be there just arnt. i do have a dog yes, his name is simber. i also have 3 children and my youngest was on holiday last week when hes not aroound my world isnt a nice one.x

[Aspergirl47 in reply to rigbear]

I honestly would nearly have to cut out my entire family and I start feeling panicky when I think of this..but at the same time I know they are driving me crazy....youre so right rigbear...the ones we think we can rely on are not there when u need them....Good to hear u have a lovely dog and your children...I have my son but with him also having Aspergers it can be really tough...I was on the brink of crying today its been so stressful but my son doesn't always pick this up and will sometimes laugh...I know its his Autism but it makes me feel so much worse...no one is there for me emotionally.....xx

[rigbear in reply to Aspergirl47]

reading that i just wish i could out my arms around you and give you the biggest cuddle, sometimes just that can help us just a little x

[Aspergirl47 in reply to rigbear]

Yes that would be so nice rigbear Youre words alone bring me comfort...just knowing there are still good caring people around...so Thank u It must have been difficult for u to have cut out your mother...be we cant keep letting them upset us either...My family have caused so much trauma from as young as 5....and it still goes on...I'm only there to be used in their eyes....xx

[rigbear in reply to Aspergirl47]

you seem such a lovely person, us sensitive ones are the ones who learn our life lessons the hard way im afraid, it was my mum who actually said our mother daughter relastionship was over, it was because i defended myself for being blamed for her putting herself out wasting her time because she turned up somewhere i should have been yet she didnt tell me she was going to be there, apparantly that was my fault or i was made to feel that way by her angry tone, i then realised i 36years old and been treated this way by her all my life so tbf i feel more liberated as it goes xx

[Aspergirl47 in reply to rigbear]

Thank u rigbear...I try to be but as u rightly say the sensitive ones really do learn the hard way...I have been walked all over by most people that I have been surrounded by unfortunately...yes people seem to turn things around on us somehow and its them that caused the problem!!! I'm glad u feel liberated u don't deserve that treatment...family or not...I look around now and see clearly how used by my own family and then the partner I had for 18 yrs...he was as I now know Gaslighting me..only recently discovered what that meant...these people have messed me up so badly..i feel I,ll never recover fully....but at the same time...ive always deeply cared about people/animals etc and I don't want the experience ive had with them to change who I am....I know their the horrible ones..not me... xx

[SM3805]

I wish I could find a way to stop the severe anxiety in the morning as well. There is nothing worse. I wake up on my work days and proceed to freak myself out so bad that sometimes I just tell my boss I need a mental health day. Luckily he knows about my medical issues, and my company has a great intermittent Leave of Absence policy, so I don't get in trouble for not making it in when my anxiety/depression paralyzes me.

Lately I have been able to breathe through it with meditation. Agora1 mentioned staying in bed for a bit, that is precisely what I have been doing. Enjoying the time with my cats and dogs, just like you mentioned about your cat. I don't know about your cat, but my furbabies, dogs included, have a great sense of my emotions. They, for some reason, just know. Sometimes at night when I am having bad anxiety and can't sleep, I'll feel one of my furbabies crawl up next to me and just calmly relax and go to sleep. That is such a wonderful feeling, that usually, I'll just take deep breathes and eventually relax enough to sleep.

Sorry, I totally just got off of your topic. But when you mentioned your cat, I had to share...

I have a question though. I get the dysfunctional family issue completely. However, with Aspergers, do you have an autism support group you can go to? I know some about aspergers and the autism spectrum from my years as a teacher. Is your bedroom stimulant free for the most part? Just thinking that if you are waking up in the morning and having that horrible morning anxiety attack, is there too much stimulation in your environment that might be triggering your anxiety?

Hope that question makes sense. I'm new to this community, and so far everyone seems so very supportive. This is a good place to anonymously ask for help. Very good for those of us who have trouble with face to face conversations like this. I hope my story helps a little, although I don't have a solid bit of advice for making them stop...

[Aspergirl47 in reply to SM3805]

Thank u SM3805.....Theres nothing worse than waking up in a panic and having all sorts of negative thoughts...I try to tell myself before going to sleep..that tomorrow will be a great day but its the same again....its good that u know at least when youre feeling bad u don't have to force yourself into work and can try and have a while in bed... I love the comfort animals give us...especially being on the spectrum...they are so intuitive .....my cat can be a good distraction and my son adores her....I was always used to having a dog but my sons sensory issues are too bad that he cant take the barking..so unfortunately I cant have one....There used to be a support group near us but unfortunately no longer exists...there is now a female group only but is in town about 30mins away and I cant travel that far because of my chronic anxiety or that would have been great to go too...the main problem in my environment is that I live in a block of flats surrounded by neighbours and it can be really noisy .....lots of doors banging...telephones ringing and sometimes arguing...I have woke up completely startled and took ages to calm down..youre so right..environment can be a trigger too....I really hope u find this community helpfulSM3805...Good to have u here Appreciate your story very much and hope I can help when u need it too... x

[Starrlight]

Hope your morning is going well, Aspergirl47.

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Starrlight]

Thank u Starrlight....Things feel so tough just now all I do is panic ...mornings are the worst....xx

[Starrlight in reply to Aspergirl47]

I’m so sorry. You deserve a break. I hope you get some relief soon. 💕