a couple of years ago i started feeling this kind of loneliness, like I do have friends but they never bother texting me or asking how i am and i always have to try really hard to get in touch. I feel kinda shit and don't have the energy to start up a conversation to talk about how i am feeling and it makes me feel as if i am using them to support me because i am feeling anxious or whatever. that loneliness comes and goes throughout the years and I almost forgot that I had this fear of being alone. and here i am again feeling like i need a friend and don't have any. I used to be part of a chatroom with loads of people that i could talk to whenever i felt like it but the chatroom died years ago. idk how to cope rn and i am starting to fall into this hole and i lost motivation to even do the simplest things like get out of bed, eat, take a damn shower...how do i stop feeling so lonely? does anyone want to be friends maybe?
I am lonely again: a couple of years... - Anxiety and Depre...
I am lonely again
I am sorry you’re feeling this way. I’d be willing to connect. My friends don’t understand how I’m feeling, and I have reached the point where I don’t tell them anything anymore.
how are you feeling?
My depression and anxiety manifest as anger and annoyance. I know things in my life could be a lot worse, but I’m struggling with not being where I thought I’d be at this age. I’m going to be 35 soon. I’ve never been married, and I don’t have any kids. Those are the two things I want most in this world, and I feel like it will never happen. I’m getting to the age that having kids of my own will be more and more difficult. All of my friends have kids. They don’t feel my sense of urgency. I’m hurt by people telling me I don’t have a reason to feel the way I do. So now I’ve stopped talking about it and have mostly withdrawn. Now I’m told I’m no fun anymore. I just feel like I can’t win so then I snap at people. Sorry. Maybe that’s too much. But i just feel like I have to tell someone without fear of being judged.
i think your feelings and fears are totally understandable. however I am not sure if you should let that stop yourself in life. maybe sort something out that you could do for yourself or with a friend, something fun that you wouldn't be able to do with kids, so you don't feel so bad about not having any of your own. my aunt had the same problem but eventually got a son. she thought that this is all she needed for happiness but it turns out he is autistic and she feels super helpless with him even though everyone is trying to give her plenty of help. you might still find someone to spend your life with and you could try getting a pet to take care of, to see what it's like to have a lot of responsability for something else. i imagine you feel very lonely because of all this and a companion can be a little soothing
I understand and relate. Since I’ve joined this community I check in a few times a day and I find it’s helpful. I am able to share things I don’t want to share with friends because I feel as if I’ve exhausted their listening ear or I didn’t respond when they reached out due to embarrassment. I have had so many Ups and Downs over the years and the Down periods have been longer. I can’t confide in my family because they are not comforting. So I too feel very alone, often. I hope you find some company and comfort here. I’m here with you and wishing you well!
thanks yeah my family kinda treats me weird if i mention any mental disorders. as if i am unstable and not normal. but i don't want to be treated like a feather i just want to be taken seriously. I kinda also wish that my friends would be like "hey want to hang out" but they never do... i always have to ask
i am so glad this community responds i feel very welcome here aswell! other social media is so shallow and weird. unless you are interesting no one cares to try to talk to you
hi Tina hope your feeling alot better talking about what your giong through ive been on here a few times and feel more connected to the people on here than my own family dismiss me when i talk about my emotions and struggles.hope we can be friends cos i know whats it like when friends go on with their lives like you dont exist.
Sorry. I know exactly how that feels and it sucks 
yeah it's just that loneliness makes me feel super helpless cause there is literally nothing i can do about it except cry, or make art of it but that just makes me forget it for a while
some were yes... but the one i was in was pretty cool i never found one like it again though
I could always use a new friend. I.can completely understand.how you can feel so alone. To me its everyone else living in the real world... And then me. Email me privarly and ww can exchange info. Then we can be one anothers support.
You only have to be ill to find out who your real friends are. The rest head for the hills cos youre not useful to them any more. Very few stick around so obviously they werent worth having in the first place. You dont need that in your life anymore than I do! No point telling anyone how you feel, in fact better not to, because if they havent been in the same boat,yet, theyre just gonna switch off. Its your struggle and we just have to fight it alone. Noone else cares and why should they? Everyone has their own struggles. Life is tough. No one said it would be easy. But sometimes we need to find an inner strength and look outside the box and find an outlet for helping others perhaps and a way to see that your own problems can be overcome and certainly not with mind-altering chemicals, just sheer will power.
I'm with you. I think it has a lot to do with personality; and in our case, we seem to treasure the connection that social media seems to be taking away from us. To me it's like no one is paying attention to real life anymore and being involved in relationships the way we know works best. Plus, I don't know about you; but, it's aggrivating when you have to constantly fan the flame with people to possibly get the fire going again, just to have it die back out.
yeah it is kinda annoying and sometimes i think, maybe i should just not message them so they message me at some point, but it is actually more likely that they will forget about me completely
That's generally my experience. But, there are a couple Jems out there that will ping me back once and a while. Those are real friends right there 
I ended up going thru phases with FB removing people who really weren't my friends and eventually removing my account. It's annoying when you see people spending all there time being narcsists online; but, not really giving a shit about the people they are advertising to (indirectly).
yeah i never got the hang of Facebook in the first place, no one ever spoke to me on there, everyone just posted things about themselves and what is happening in THEIR life. I always felt super distant cause facebook told me all these stories and my friends didn't... I deleted it after a couple of months cause i honestly didn't use it for anything.
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I understand how you feel. My wife passed away 2 years ago. She was only 42. I've did a mental inventory of who my true friends are and cut them out of my life. The remaining friends I have Are starting to make me feel they are not true friends. I haven't dated anyone in 2 years and don't know what to do next. I hope you can find strength in yourself. I'm a military veteran and know you only have you when it comes down to it. If you can win the battle with in yourself you've won the war
I hope you can find your strength again and pick yourself up. frankly I find it so hard to pick myself up because i feel like i just loath in selfpitty
Thank you very much. As you. I often have to remind myself that If I was the person a beautiful women inside and out could fall in love with then maybe there's one more. I look back on my military career and know that hopelessness is not the end. I know you will fight for your better days and hope you Renner the wonderful life that is to come. We just have to tough it out. Remember when you felt better and where confident and didn't have such pity on yourself. Your the same confident person when you look in the mirror. Theres nothing wrong with self pity. It awakens you to take a look at life and Renner where you came from. To have faith in where your going. Find your strength.
I hate that your are feeling this way... Negative thoughts and feeling can be very difficult to overcome. The Bible Says finding a true friend is a "Blessing" and you will be lucky to find 1 or 2 in a life time.
This site is a great place. A lot of sensitive people here that feel the same way you do and can greatly empathize with your struggle.
I find that my own struggle with anxiety, OCD, Depression and loneliness is more of a journey than a destination. It also takes me a lot of energy to go out and find people willing to struggle through life with me. I text a lot of people even though they tend to let me down but I am really trying to water those relationships. It feels like an uphill battle. I am way more sensitive than they are which is tough hence why I am constantly reaching out to so many. I find some will share more than others which is nice and I have some that listen better than others as well.
Hang in there and keep posting. You did good to take a "Damn shower" that shows you are still fighting. Even when it is tough you are fight the battle and getting stronger wether you believe it or not!
Hi, yep this feeling of isolation goes with the territory.
Www.Helpguide.org offers some good advice on loneliness its a good site in a lot of ways actually.
Best wishes,
I too get these feelings.
wow thanks i'll check that out
I joined this group a week ago, and have found it to be helpful and people responsive. I am 50 and let my anger get the best of me and it is hurting my whole family as I am about to lose my job. Luckily I knew I am in bad shape and am now in an intense 3 week program for depression. My future is unclear, but this is the first time I have hope that I will emerge in a better place mentally.
I really wish you the best for yourself and your family. I'm sure you can do this!
Well you could pm me. I know though that face to face meetings are more viable but this is something at least.
Hi! I just joined this community like a week ago and I come to it every now and then. So far everyone has been so nice and kind. It also has been comforting to know you are not alone in your feelings. I know I sure feel like I'm the only one feeling the way I do sometimes lol. But it's funny I see your post, today I woke up feeling extremely lonely, I have my ups and downs. Throughout the years I've had friends disappear because they have kids, or husbands, getting engaged or they just start having a lot of other things in their life. It's a hard pill to swallow accepting all the change. I have 1 really good friend and that's about it, but she just moved and isn't around anymore so it's been hard not having her around. Hope this community helps! You got a friend in me ☺
well to be fair my family couldn't afford an internet connection until 2008 xD but i am pretty young too.
I’m in a similar situation, and I’m here for you. Loneliness stinks, being lone is. Terrible. I’m going to a new church tomorrow in hopes of meeting new people. I’m not good at maintaining close friendships because I don’t think I ever learned how when I was younger. My energy was focused on my mom who was very sick.
Anyway I want to reach out to others now because I need friends too.
Too much info maybe, but still my heart goes out to you.
sorry to hear, i couldn't maintain friends cause i was bullied and my friends didn't want to be made fun of because they hung out with me
Ill b ur friend 😜
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