Feeling depressed and anxious after hitting a setback and some other issues at the same time

[deimos]

Hi everyone, I like to apologize in advance for my bad writing because English is not my first language.

Recently I have been depressed and not liking to do anything a lot of times.

I haven't been like this at all, I have always been enthusiastic, felt excited to do everything and I have always achieved my goals. I am living in a third world country.

I want to continue my PhD studies. I really like to do groundbreaking work. I worked hard and was accepted to a good university in Australia, but My Visa has not been granted after 6 month.

I am working 11 hours a day every day even the weekends. I don't have any free time. I hate my job. I used to be passionate about a lot of things but now I am not in the mood for anything.

I am constantly nagging to my long distance girlfriend that she is not paying enough attention to me or she doesn't give me enough time whereas she does. she is absolutely great, she tolerates me, she is really busy but she finds time to chat with me 3 to 4 times a day at least. but still I find a way to be mad at her. and this makes me depressed.

[fauxartist]

you have good reasons to be down, and this is probably a temporary depression, when these things get resolved or you find another solution, things will probably start slowly going back into place. Sometimes we make plans and because life has other plans for us, we either adapt or we go down hard. You sound like a survivor, and eventually, If I understand correctly you have 6 months to wait, stay busy as you can, know your just frustrated and that does get you down, but eventually things will fall into place. I make the mistake of piling up too much of my stuff on my partner sometimes, and it's really not their fault, but then I get the ...sort your sh*t out talk...and I realize that wasn't cool. Just be honest with your partner that your frustrated and don't mean to be complaining... only I can change how I deal with things and it's only me that can make the choice to change what I don't like.

[deimos in reply to fauxartist]

thanks for your response. No I have been waiting 6 months, and I don't know if I will ever get my Visa. I know I am piling up too much stuff on my partner but our relationship is complicated, because I want to leave the country, obviously we can't have a serious relationship. she says I have made my decision and I need to live with its consequences but I can't help myself. I think I love her. she is very very helpful towards me and make a lot of time for me but I don't think she has the same feelings as me. and she has every right to do so. I know all these but still it is very hard