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Boyfriend of seven years decided one morning to take his toothbrush and just leave while I was asleep and then Wrote me a dear Jane letter. Constantly tell me love me, went out of His Way, Valentine’s Day to make it a perfect day, flowers candy beautiful card I love you I love you. I thought I knew him but I didn’t. Feel so betrayed, thought I knew him

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Marielle1, I don't think anything ever can prepare us for someone just walking out of our lives after a long time relationship. You are right in that we never can really know what someone is capable of doing. As difficult as losing someone in death is, losing someone who just walks away seems more devastating. I'm truly sorry this happened to you. I hope you will find some comfort in the forum from others who have gone and are going through the same thing. You need time to grieve through the different stages of grief. Possibly the help of a therapist can help ease the pain some. Know that we are here because we care about others and are always willing to listen and console. xx

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Yes I guess you’re right I need time to grieve. My most difficult time of my day is waking up then reality hits me. Not even easy finding a therapist Thanks for your comfort

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I'm so sorry for your loss, and yes...you would feel betrayed because of all the mixed message of him saying he loves you...then walks away. Was there any explanation in your dear Jane note?

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Yes he said he wants to be free no attachments. What hurts the most is the way he did it it was very cruel. Tells me he loves me and then does that. I love someone I want to be with them. It hurts

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Yeah it's a long time..what was your relationship like..was it healthy?.. Was it give and take?..I mean seriously, writing a letter whilst you were asleep?.. going out of his way made HIM feel good..Its been two weeks since Valentines you think anything changed since?..there must be more to it..Time heals..

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We had a great relationship we did things together enjoyed each other‘s company never argued it was giving on both parts relationship I don’t understand. I guess you’re right he made himself feel better on Valentine’s Day he must’ve plan on leaving and that made her feel less guilty to what he was planning ahead I have a broken hearts feel so sad thanks for caring 😭

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Awww. Marielle. I am so sorry. I have been through the same thing. I was 7months pregnant with my daughter and he up and left on Friday while I wasn’t home. It was rough but I can tell it gets better. As the saying goes Time heals all wounds. Thinking about you!

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Sorry to hear that happened to you no one deserves that and I’m glad that you’re better now. It’s comforting to hear what time is the healer. 😢

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Dear Marielle,

I am sorry to hear that. My fiancé left me pretty much the same way barely a month after my dad passed so I've been feeling like crap for the past couple of months. I am not sure what goes on in men's minds when they change behavior all of a sudden and just leave everything behind... How do you keep your mind busy? Work, school? I have been on sick leave for two days so I've been reading and writing, between tear crisis.. Im hoping time will help me get my life back on track, soon... Get well soon! xo

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I feel your pain. They say time is the healer, Hope so. I have days that I think will never end grieving. I keep myself occupied most of the time. I go out every day even if it’s just to the gym. You have to move on with your life. You did nothing wrong. I wish you joy and love xx

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Thank you for your kind words! Hope you feel better soon as well. Joy and Love is definitely the goal! xo

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