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[sunshinesue028]

Hi I'm new to the site. Just a little background information. I have 4 kids of my own and a step daughter. My fiance cheated on me sometime last year and i happened to find out when i started a new job. 3 weeks in a patient told me that her neighbor had an affair with my fiance. He denied it for over a month. I couldn't get him to tell me. Well that was the beginning of my hell. Once he told me i flipped out. I wanted to go to the woman's home and beat her ass. Oh forgot to mention, the female knew about my kids and myself. The patient that told me recognized me from my facebook photo. Also told me she was driving by my house. To make a long story short one day i did go to her house and she wouldn't come out so i spay painted whore on her mailbox, tried to kill myself and ended up in the ward. Great right? Well that is not the worst part. A few month later when i was leaving work a young man was out in the parking lot waiting for me and told me that this woman was still stalking me. At this point there is a restraining order on me to stay away from her. I lost my mind once again. This time i didn't try to kill myself this time. I cant say much but i can say i am facing two felony charges. I didn't kill her. I'm scared. I have never been in trouble with the law till this woman came into my life. I actually felt at the time of these incidents that i actually lost my shit and i even remember what i did. Now i lost my job, have a ton of court appearances and i may go to jail. I don't know how i ended up here. I was in the paper so everyone could see. How embarrassing for my children. I am so disappointed in myself. I have started a anger management course. I don't know what else i can do to better myself at this point. I go to therapy and just in the last month i have started medication. I knew i did wrong and i couldn't handle it. My lawyer and an ex district attorney keep trying to reassure me that it will be brought down to a lesser charge. I can only hope and pray for my children that it does. My youngest daughter is 7 and she has anxiety and she needs me. This will hurt her so bad. I don't know what will happen to her if i go away. Thanks for reading.

[Freefall88]

Well first sorry to hear about your relationship and what your kids are going through. Now as for the charges all I can say is the courts look at your record, if first time offender and emotional state so seems this is why your lawyer is saying it be lowered but that's all I can say and just keep talking with your lawyer.

I've been cheated on so I know the anger you feel inside and it's good you say your getting help/therapy as that's the first step in trying to get a handle on your emotions. Also don't be embarrassed about being in the paper as you hit a bump now it's time to get better for your kids and in the end you can come out a stronger and more confident person.

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How has therapy going? Are you being treated for anger, depression or anxiety? Do you have any support? I think you need to protect yourself from this woman. You have every right to be angry at both this woman and your fiancé. It’s how you cope with your feelings that matters. I’m sure you heard this before.

[hypercat54]

Hi are you still with your cheating fiance? It is his fault and his alone for cheating on you not the other woman's. Ok she was out of order too but you should be blaming him for breaking his committment to you and your children, not her.

I hope the courts let you off with just a caution or community service. x

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Hiya, so sorry to hear about the difficult time you have been going through. None of us can change the past (although we can learn from it) and we do not know what the future holds, so all we can do is focus on the present. More often than not our our fears never become reality. Be kind to yourself and, as far as possible, to others and keep moving forward. Take care,

[Cruelife]

Sorry that this happened, I know what it's like to be cheated on. I agree with hypercat54. It's only natural to be attracted to someone else. But even if the attraction is so strong, knowing that it would hurt the person you care about, and would risk your future together, should be unsexy and a big turn off. Someone who proposed marriage to you, should have a growing interest and attraction in you. This is what you deserve. Don't even bother thinking about the other woman. Focus on looking after yourself and your beautiful kids. Talk this through in therapy. Time will heal and you'll have a beautiful life again. You got this!