How did it get so bad?

[PoeticSoul34]

Been seperated from my wife for almost 3 months. And its only gotten worse. Everythings argument if i speak its a problem if im quiet its a problem. I was so focused on working and providing i forgot the little things and the arrival of our daughter after trying for so long made it so much stressful. The relationship suffered so much. We would go without talking without touching at all. I found outside people to talk to and i cheated a few times. She found someone to talk to. We made a effort to be great parents but being married had its highs n lows. My anger got the best of me. I couldnt take the seperation and pushed her farther away. Til now we cant go a minute without it bein intense. During this period ive became a better father to my daughter. More hands on from doctors visits to giving her baths. But i want my marriage to be healed. I know i can be a better husband all around. Shes worth it and she deserves to be loved. But now all she talks about is gettin a divorce and being with somebody better. I need help bad. I just wanna be abled to prove to her that ive changed

[nimon]

Hi, I went through something similar. It ended up in divorce. The emotions are intense right now. Some days I wanted it to end and other days I wish I had a time machine to fix the past. Unfortunately you can’t force a relationship to be fixed. Over time there is a small possibility to reconcile but when emotions are strong it makes it harder to reconcile especially if she’s resisting. I’m lucky that my kids were young. They barely remember us being together. We have a great co parenting relationship we both moved on. I am happier now. It took two years to find that happiness. This wasn’t my plan but life isn’t perfect. Stop pushing her away and maybe she’ll come back but accept whatever the outcome. Don’t make things worse cause in the end the kids suffer in my opinion.