Anxiety & Depression, fear of being alone and being sick

[Jason28]

Hi guys I am new here, I am 28 male and so have been suffering from anxiety as long as I can remember, I am on antidepressants for years and it's hard even getting through a single day.

I panic about the smallest things, I fear being alone and also I have crippling fear of being sick.

I just had a we son 7 days ago who is beautiful but I can't handle knowing I am responsible for him does anyone feel the same?

[kenster1]

hi Jason.congratulations on becoming a father.its the best feeling in the world.is it your first born.speak to your dad or even another relative or maybe a friend about how you feel.dont worry I'm sure you will be an amazing dad.you have your son so the chances of you being are even less.

[Jason28 in reply to kenster1]

Hi kenster,

Thank you very much, that means allot to me, I want to do right by my son and my girlfriend, I want to be strong so I can enjoy my family but it so hard at the moment because I am so scared of being a father.

[kenster1 in reply to Jason28]

its just natural to worry after a few weeks the feelings will wear off.my third born I was worse than the first two.embrace it and cherish every moment together.

[Jason28 in reply to kenster1]

Yeah this is my first so it's all new, I really appreciate the advice kenster, I think it's scary coz I am out of my comfort zone and I haven't being eating so am pure tired all the time, I know I have to take it a day at a time.

[kenster1 in reply to Jason28]

yeh its all new to you. you will grow more confident in yourself each day.yeah the tiredness can get you down but you and your partner should take turns at night so one of you is at least getting proper rest.

[Jason28 in reply to kenster1]

Yeah we have talked about that, at night my anxiety is very low but during the day it's at it's highest so hard

[Crazy-K]

Hi Jason, welcome and congratulations on your baby. I can relate to having anxiety and the panic from even the smallest of things. I remember when I had my son. I was 18 and I was terrified because I had no idea what I was doing, I felt so unprepared and overwhelmed.

The good news is my son is now 12 and he is doing just fine. I still worry all the time about if I am doing things right. I still have times where I'm afraid I'm not a good enough mother.

I think worrying about being a good parent is normal though. I think it just proves how much we love our children and want to do right by them.

I think you are going to be a great dad. You love your child and gf. Just be there for them and be the kind of dad you would want to have. Just being there for them and loving them is what I think is most important and you are already doing that. You're doing great.

[Jason28 in reply to Crazy-K]

Thank you so much, It's good to hear some one that can relate to my situation and I am not alone, life is a struggle on the best of days, it good to hear from someone who has 3 children and doing fine.

[Crazy-K in reply to Jason28]

I only have one, my son, but if I can make it so can you. Everyday is a struggle but you are definitely not alone. We are all here for you. I really have found more support on this site than I have ever had. Whenever you need someone to talk to or just need to let stuff out we'll be here for you.