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Easily discouraged

I'm easily discouraged and I hate it. If I feel kinda motivated and I do something it never ends up great. Like I was motivated to be more productive but when I went to google, to figure out different things I could do, I would only be able to do maybe 3 things from a list of ten. (It wasn't because I didn't think I could do it, well I mean that might have applied to a few, but I can't. Like one example had to do with work or driving around or something and I don't have a job and I can't drive.) So I just felt kinda stupid for even trying to get more productive.

Another incident was when I did and extra assignment for chemistry. (It was for getting the test percentage grade increased) The optional assignment was making a mole (the animal) because we had just got done with the chapter introducing up to moles (in chemistry). Well, I was gonna do it then I decided not to, but then I decided to do it really last minute and stayed up till 4am finishing it. I was so proud of it and I thought it looked great and humorous (It was in a silky red dress that had an extremely pleated skirt, I gave it HUGE googly eyes, and boobs) but when I took it in and saw the other 2 that had been made plus people's reactions and comments (nothing mean, but I complimented one guys mole and in response he said "Thanks..... Those are some big eyes.") I thought, "Ok mine isn't great, but it's still good and funny." But then I started to hate it and regret my choices and now it's gotten to the point that when ever I see it I want to rip it to bits and burn it (even tho I made it about 3-4 month's ago).

I just hate that I'm like this. It kinda happened with drawing I made for an art show about teen dating violence awareness and I worked hard on it and I was super proud of it. I took it in to school to show a few people and the response weren't great (1 was good tho). I got "ok, not sure what it means, but cool I guess.", "I like it?", And "That is awesome!". I also got other compliments from my mom, a family friend, and one class mate who is always supportive. Idk. Just the 2 not so great comments took my confidence down multiple pegs and made the rest of my day melancholy.

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Hi there, it's good that you're putting time and effort into things and there's nothing wrong with being average. The journey is important, the experience, not the praise.

You learn something from every school assignment and you develop different parts of your brain which will be useful to you later in life. Hang in there, and it will get easier as you get older. Hugs

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I don't know if this will help at all and it's kind of hard to explain through text. What I do when I'm feeling nervous or stressed out about something is I think about the future. Say you have a presentation and you're lying in bed the night before, don't think about the project. What I'm saying is that I skip over the presentation entirely and just think "In just a couple of hours I am going to be in this exact position tomorrow night with the presentation done, relieved that it's over with." Maybe it will help with future things, but it's just this weird concept I somehow thought of one night and it will give you something to look forward to thinking the next night. Kind of like a time travel thing I guess? Just something that helps me, maybe it can help someone else you know?

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I think about the future alll the time, but I only ever think of the stressful things (unless there's a specific event I'm looking forward to). The thought of focusing on near future bits that aren't related to the stressful thing has never occurred to me. I'm gonna try that out. Thanks!!

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I know that I used to procrastinate doing a project because of the fear of failure. So eventually I just stopped trying. And I worried about other peoples opinions over my own. Eventually I learned that I will never know my potential until I try, and who cares what other people think, they don't really care about my stuff, I'm just not that important. People often say things just to be critical, and that's just because they can, it' doesn't mean shit. If you are happy with something you have done, then no one else matters. Sure you may not drive, but you can get on a bus and ride around, or take a train, etc. Nobody can make us happy or un-happy, only we can do that. If someone makes a comment that hurts our feelings, and they meant to hurt us, f'um...shame on them for being so small and limited. Maybe they thought what you did was brilliant but were not a big enough person to say so. Don't judge yourself through another's eyes....you really don't know what they are thinking. Only what you think really matters in the long run.

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Very true, thank you.

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