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Coping With a First-Time Breakup

Hi everyone, I hope you are all having a manageable New Year.

So, to set the stage, I have not officially broken up with my boyfriend yet, but I have been preparing myself for it to happen. We have been on poor terms for many years and it is just time for me to move along.

We have been together for 7 years and he is my first boyfriend. We met in college my freshman, his sophomore year and have been together ever since. Obviously, after that long period of time, I have changed emotionally and have set higher standards for myself and have growing confusion on my sexuality that I feel like I have never had the chance to explore because of my early dating situation.

Ironically, I have a degree in counseling and art therapy, but boy is it hard to give therapy to yourself haha. I have struggled with severe anxiety (unmedicated) for 24 years. What I would like feedback on from others who have had experience with breakups or divorce is how to gain your independence back? How do you cope? What do you do with all of the old photos and "stuff" you have accumulated over the years that reminds you of the other person? How do you move on and when did you know you have moved on? How soon after did you begin dating again, if at all?

Thank you so much for your support! I am very grateful for this space!

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