Jan

[jdjonaj]

I have to many issues to handle. Anxiety and depression are taking over me. I have a son who passed away eight years ago. Left four small children. I help my daughter-in-law support them. Now I found out I have cancer cannot work getting Social Security disability. Financially in trouble. Than I have one more son with health issues. I worry for him.

[claire0410]

I am sorry for your troubles. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with right now. It can be hard to be strong for others when you have your own issues to deal with. Remember you have to put yourself first some times. Sending you good wishes and prayers.

[jdjonaj in reply to claire0410]

Thank you! I needed to hear that from someone. Your right I never put myself first. Always helping everyone else. I am drained from worries about everyone.

[Celtic27]

Hi jd sorry to hear your story youve definately been through it ! I was wondering have you had your benefits assessed incase youre not getting everything your entitled to ! Have you been to see your doctor and has he given you anything to help you get well ! Please dont think ill of me when i say your going to have to look after your self first then you will be better placed to help those you wish too ! God bless you and you family happy christmas x

[jdjonaj in reply to Celtic27]

Yes I am taking all the medications I should be. Also I am on meds for anxiety and depression. Not helping much I always feel down. No energy at all.

[Jeannii]

I AM SOOOOOOOOOOO SORRY u are having such a hard time. Sometimes life sucks , I'd like to be able to say something wise to u BUT that doesn' t help u in practical terms .........Living in the West sucks after u are of a certain age with health issues. I wonder if god planned for us to live this way IF there is god.........The jury is still out on that for me. I hope things turn around for u, just take one step at a time, worse thing happen in war zones so...........

[Windy101]

You sound like a very kind and giving person. Remember, though, that if you don't put your own health and finances first, you will not be able to help anyone else. Of course you love your daughter-in-law and grandcchildren and miss your son terribly, but you and your health have to come first.

It's like that saying that if you're on a plane that's in an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first so that you can help others put theirs on.

I wish you all the best in taking good care of yourself and many good things for you and your family this new year.

[jdjonaj in reply to Windy101]

Thank you. You have a great New Year also!

[X01WOOG]

I pray to our Heavenly Father that you would seek Him. Our Father created us and He is the one who can help us in our times of trouble. He is our rock. We all have our own stories and I could tell you mine but I think it would be a book. It is nice to be able to help your daughter-in-law to be able to take care of your grandchildren; however, now that you are no longer able, she should get public assistance for them. Grandma has her own issues. I commend you for loving your children and wanting to financially take care of them. I know it isn't possible to do what you used to do. First, make sure you are taking care of yourself. Let your children know you love them. Hug them, take time to listen to them, ask the little ones to help YOU--any little chore at all. Kids love being with their Grandmas. My Grandma had no money whatsoever. I was crazy about her--she talked to me. I stayed overnight with her and we ate toast for breakfast. I loved it. She let me have a bucket of water with soap and taught me to scrub around the area rug when I was very little. I thought it was great. Perhaps I am too old fashioned to know what kids like to do in these days. My grandchildren mostly get on their cell phones when they do come to visit. Three years ago, I lost my son on my birthday to cancer of the brain. Two years ago, I lost my daughter to cancer. Yes, I am depressed. I go to church on Sundays and I go to church on Wednesdays. My husband is no support as they weren't his biological children. I love my Bible Study sisters. We are a group of praying grandmothers. Please take care and know you are not alone. I am praying for you.

[jdjonaj in reply to X01WOOG]

Thank you and I am so sorry to hear what you went through. I know I need to get out and do something for myself. When I am home I just sleep a lot. No energy.

[X01WOOG]

Oh, dear, I'm sorry. I think I did write a book. Perhaps just knowing we all have our issues and we are definitely not alone in depression, we help one another. Prayers for all.

[jdjonaj in reply to X01WOOG]

Thank you!

[X01WOOG]

I would like to send some cute emojis (whatever they are called) but I don't know how! Heart, heart, heart, hug hug hug.

[jdjonaj in reply to X01WOOG]

Thanks! That made me smile!