Questioning relationships and ourselves

[Clarebear86]

Does anyone ever get the feeling they are living with a complete stranger? Either in themselves or that other people don’t seem to be as they once were?

[Janieliza]

Absolutely Clarebear. It's actually a normal part of anxiety as we know it yet can be incredibly confusing. What I do want to reassure you is this....try not to make any rash decisions whilst you feel like this bcas when the fog (I refer to anxiety and depression with pet names) disappears and you have moments of clarity, rationality...youll see them for who they once were(good and bad!). It won't last lovely....it won't. Take care. J

[Clarebear86 in reply to Janieliza]

Thank you so much.

[Janieliza in reply to Clarebear86]

Give me a nudge if you need a chat....there are so many wonderful people on here that will support you on bad and good days. When you have a good day...we celebrate with you and a bad day?...we are simply here so you aren't alone. J

[Clarebear86 in reply to Janieliza]

Again thank you, it’s very nice when people do actually offer there ear and support in times like this.

[Janieliza in reply to Clarebear86]

I find it helps. It wasn't available when I had it. You either went to a doctor and they referred you elsewhere or we suffered in silence. I initially ignored it whilst making everyone's lives miserable including my own. When I did go for help, albeit 7 years after I should have...my life started to change. Once I was off all meds(I literally rattled when I walked) i felt even better. I have the occasional wobble Clare but I know how to cope with them so if I can help anyone else get to the point I am now...i will do so happily. I'm also conscious it can return, I don't treat anxiety/depression with kid gloves and think it won't return...im not that cocky but try to enjoy my life as it is now...who knows what tmrw will bring? My ex husband is being a brute at the moment and ordinarily I'd block his calls but as he's looking after the children I have to put up with the abuse. He's going to get a shock tho as we've wrapped this up quicker than we thought so I'm heading home shortly!!! Shame I can't take a pic of his face....give you all a giggle. J

[fauxartist]

yes as a matter of fact my last relationship of 15 years was like that....

[Clarebear86 in reply to fauxartist]

It’s my husband. He’s going through some sort of mid life crisis & I’m struggling with the repurcussions it is causing. He’s gone out early and bought his own Christmas presents, all I can think is we have a daughter, do you not want to sort her presents out? I’ve ended up doing it by myself otherwise she probably wouldn’t have anything for Christmas.

[quieturban]

I get that. Experiencing that with my hubby. I feel he’s changed a lot but I guess things change after you get married

[Clarebear86 in reply to quieturban]

Same here. It’s my husband and myself, mostly I feel this way about at times.