So low today....Feel I have no one that understands my situation...

[Aspergirl47]

Hey, Having an awful day the low feeling are the worst to deal with on your own...I have Aspergers and other mental health problems and my only son also has Aspergers and I'm pretty sure depression, but he doesn't trust Drs and meds....he has so much going for him as in his skills, his drawings are amazing, hs musical and also loves drama but sits every day doing nothing and doesn't seem aware at all that hes wasting his young life...I worry myself sick, just as the Dr is trying to help me with chronic anxiety/panic and giving me info on how to help myself, something else about my son will make me worry obsessively and I cant cope, my family never come round even though their 5 minutes away and I have no friends I can talk too as ive spent my life caring for my son and never socialising...I feel so low and empty and wondering why I'm here at all...really needed to get this out..Wondering if anyone has any ideas I could try...much appreciated...

[AllisonO]

Hi dear, my heart goes out to you. I have felt the same way too. My brother has aspergers, so I am quite familiar with the syndrome. However, I think it is quite a beautiful thing and maybe even sometimes a blessing in disguise. The way his brain works is honestly (for lack of a better word) f***** awesome! From what I have learned, people with aspergers are capable of thinking in a different way. That makes you unique, important, intelligent, and a necessity to the development society! That alone my darling, is the reason why you are here. Because you are BEAUTIFUL.

I am so sorry about your son, I can only imagine how you must be feeling. All you can do is give him love, support, and the best help you can offer. Be the best you that you can be for him, remember to take time for yourself too. You can't help others, until you help yourself.

Have you considered support groups? Or a therapist? Maybe even a family therapist? There is tons of help out there, and plenty of good people. Even hobby activites like hiking, painting, writing, acting, jogging, swimming, and loads of others can be great too. I have faith you will find the happiness you deserve <3 Feel free to message me if you would like to chat. xo

[Aspergirl47 in reply to AllisonO]

Thank u so much for your kind reply.. Aspergers can be a good thing, unfortunately it can also come with a lot of depression and anxiety, I also have Ptsd through childhood abuse which is making things really difficult...Anti depressants don't seem to help me much..tried several... I was going to see a Dr about my son but he refuses to go and wont take meds..The support groups might be helpful, I will look into that, it will help my son meet some others with the condition, help with the isolation, its painful to watch he is so talented ...it just seems like he has lost all motivation..Youre brother is so lucky to have a sister like u... I wish my family would see our condition in the way u kindly described it...much appreciated....I try to go walking a lot with my son, it helps him feel a bit better and recently bought a gorgeous cat that he looks after...he loves animals...Has your brother had any issues with mental health difficulties? I was told its really common in Aspergers...Hugs xx

[AllisonO in reply to Aspergirl47]

Anytime! I am so happy that I could help. It is more than unfortunate you suffered abuse as a child, nobody deserves that. Luckily, you are clearly a very strong person given that you are still standing here and with a very talented son beside you! The walking sounds like an awesome idea, I do that to cope with my depression and anxiety as well. Also animals, can be a HUGE depression reliever so the cat I am sure will be a great companion!

My brother has struggled with some mental health difficulties too. Not so much depression, but he has serious anxiety especially in social settings. As a child, it debilitated him to the point he would cry and break down almost everywhere, and almost all the time. However, these days he found a passion for running. He runs marathons, and participates in local races and even some that require a bit of travel. For him, I think the friends he made and the groups he became a part of played a huge role in building his self confidence and overcoming the anxiety that plagued him almost all of his adolescent life. He holds a job, has a handful of good friends, and runs almost everyday. It is possible to move forward, and find the happiness and peace you deserve <3 You just have got to find what works best for you.

Agreed with the other response, a doctors office could be of use to you. If you have tried most meds with no luck, you could go the natural route and try a holistic approach too! There IS something that works for everybody. You aren't alone! Wishing you my best!

[Windy101]

I would definitely call your doctor's office and share these thoughts. If they cannot help you connect with helpful people, then try your local crisis hotline. Friends and family sometimes drift away just when we need them most. I've experienced that, too.

Please know that you're not alone. We are all right here and understand.

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Windy101]

Thank u so much Windy101...Just knowing people are there to talk to can make such a difference..My family never come over now, they don't seem to understand the situation ..I'm sorry u have had similar experience, maybe I'm naïve but I always took it family should stick together...I will maybe try and get an appointment with my own GP tomorrow and tell him how things are...Hugs xx