Mad

[Summersun1soon]

My mother is terminal, she left with my brother and I cannot get a hold of them.

The last time this happened she had been in icu for 2 weeks in medical induced coma. The whole family is looking. We have called hospitals , funeral homes and nursing homes. This is crazy. My aunt has cancer and just had lung removed and her good soul is worried about everyone but herself. My grandmother is 90 and very spunky. She got sick Monday. She was admitted to hospital 2 days. She has family member with her at all times. She ended up yesterday again at emergency room. I'm with her today and her strength isn't much but better. Believe this my boyfriend of 9 yrs is mad because I haven't had time with him. I pulled off thanksgiving for 10ish. I had ( the love of my life) granddaughter for 3 days and all this sickness around. What is wrong with people?

[HearYou]

Well, guess you're just venting, and your question is just a rhetorical one. What's wrong with these people? Guess they are just people who don't keep you in the loop and that is really making you angry, particularly if you fed all of them Thanksgiving Dinner.

Fixing Thanksgiving Dinner is difficult, challenging and plain hard work , not mentioning the setting the table and cleaning up afterward.

Looks like you are primarily angry about your brother and mother, and just the whole situation, cause your grandma and granddaughter haven't seem to do anything to cause you to be out of the loop. And yes, regret your significant other is loosing patience, cause you are finding yourself keeping him out of your personal, private loop. Whew lots of loops going on.

This is Murphy's Law at it's finest. Everyone needs you and most are ill or missing and you did your best to make a happy holiday memory of Thanksgiving. Life is whats happening when we are making other plans. Sometimes just wish life and our plans (expectations) would coordinate and work together.

On a serious note, If you still don't know about your Mom, perhaps you need to report her as a missing person just in case your brother hasn't just been responsible for not keeping you in the loop. Please let us know that you have found her.

Holidays are not easy sometimes, are they.

If you have calmed a bit, I'd like to share my story for you andI hope it makes you laugh at what happened to me one Thanksgiving years ago. Ok?

Only thing close to this that happened to me once was a trip to Las Vegas with myl ex-husband who loved to gamble and drink 20 year old Scotch. He was executive VP of a large financial concern. His CFO and his wife were with us.

As soon as we landed in Vegas, and driven to the hotel, he dropped his luggage in the room and said he was just going to look around for little while. He had a heart condition.

That was in early afternoon. By 3 a.m, I had called every hotel, hospital, ER department, walk-in clinic, EMS, ambulance services and the police dept in case he had been involved or killed in an accident or robbery, and fearing something had happened because of his heart.

He shows up almost 24 hours later around 4 a.m. the next morning. I was so worried I was actually sick.

He was happy as a lark and smelling like scotch. Had been playing blackjack all that time and was complaining that his back hurt, and why hadn't I parked the rental car closer to the room. I was taking a taxi back to the airport within an hour and fly home.

For the next month he was walking like a crab until I insisted he see a neurosurgeon. Two weeks later he was having the "shaving' surgery of a disc in his lower back in a hospital because he had been sitting on an overloaded wallet in the back pocket of his slacks the entire 40 hour time he had been gambling.

Thought that might have made his behavior change. Nope. He just bought a beautiful money clip and placed his money in his front pocket.

Did I mention he is my EX-husband?

[Summersun1soon in reply to HearYou]

I needed that. Thanks. Thank you also for understanding

[HearYou in reply to Summersun1soon]

Have you heard anything about your Mom yet? (or strangled your brother?))

If you tell me where you live I'll handle the brother strangling for you.