Obsessing, overthinking and crying over little mistakes?

[anxiousghost]

It doesn't matter what I do, I always overthink it. I make a small mistake like forgetting something unimportant, it sticks to me for the rest of the day. I start shaking and crying feeling like I'm so forgetful and disorganised. It gets even worse when someone mentions it, or even shouts at me because of it. I don't know how to control it, my thoughts just focus on my one little mistake until I lose my mind thinking about it.

[Clarebear86]

Yep that sounds about right. You’re not losing your mind. Might sound like a stupid insincere question but have you tried taking deep breaths or even stepping away from the situation if you can to try and take your mind of it? I know it can be hard, I get things stuck in my head or push them to one side and when I least expect it poof there it is in my minds eye, replaying over and over again.

[gogogirl]

Hey, I go there sometimes also. We are all human. Give yourself a hug, and glad you came here.

[Ashlan]

In the 2nd grade, I got a "strike" on the board for not letting Alyssa play with me at recess. I was racing with the boys and didn't want her to get her white shoes dirty.

Safe to say I understand the feeling and would love to hear if anyone has any suggestions either. I will literally make myself feel sick from it too.

[Leeofthemt]

I live in anxiety and over-thinking. I'm there now. I've been meditating but I lost patience with it after 20 min. However, I believe I'm beginning to find a way out, but it's going to take time. I'm excited because I'm aware of how I feel these days. Even though it's so hard. I think I will see some improvement if I keep allowing myself to feel this and not hide. It will be a little better if I keep standing up to the anxiety and trying to the best thing to take care of myself. I hope there are others who know what I'm talking about.

[dolphins35 in reply to Leeofthemt]

Hi Leeofthemt,

How are you going since this message? I just read it - Thank you for reaching out and sharing this, and I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself. It is really difficult when your mind is working against you, and meditation can be quite hard! I found last year to be very anxiety-provoking, but meditation is hard for me too. I have personally found meditating on Bible verses and prayer to be enormously helpful as they have helped me to push through in these times. Meditating with the Holy Spirit has provided a tangible sense of peace even through difficult times. The verses are filled with hope and I really recommend them, even though I might sound insane! Here are some:

homemadelovely.com/20-calmi...

Of course, a professional will help a lot , they are the best I can also provide a link to a good helpline!!

headspace.org.au/eheadspace/

Let me know how you are and if everything is okay. Praying for you all that God would provide His peace supernaturally.

[Agora1]

Hi Leeofthemt, I understand exactly what you are saying. I do believe in meditation as well as deep breathing along with acceptance of anxiety. I would suggest you go to YouTube and type in 5 minute Audio Meditation/DeepBreathing. I think you will be pleasantly surprised in how well just those few minutes can help calm both your mind and your body. the more times you listen to it over a period of time, the easier it will become for you to include meditation as part of your way out of anxiety. Wish you well x

[imagineif]

I listen to a radio broadcast occasionally and one of the hosts says, "If it is hysterical, it is historical". Your feelings are valid and there for a reason. Takes a lot of effort to dig to the reason why it is there and we respond so strongly. You are NOT losing it. Be gentle with yourself.

[astral_soul]

I just found this when trying to look up if there was something wrong with me. I've been crying over small mistakes at work even though deep down I'm getting angry at myself for crying (I think I get mad at myself because I was made fun of for "crying too much" when I was bullied in Kindergarten) but I completely understand. For me at least, the best solution I have is to step away from the situation and do my best not to focus on it too long. I would often do my best to distract myself with something I enjoy. I would take a couple of deep breaths first, drink a glass of cold water, and do my best to immerse myself in something that makes me happy. Humor helps too, I suggest the youtube channel Graystillplays, he's really funny and his videos helped me feel better a lot of times. Best of luck to you, hopefully you find something that works for you if my method doesn't

[HopeWithSmile]

My whole life is shortly described in this post.

Anxiety paired with perfectionism is the worst mix out there....

Just breathe, float in positive thoughts or memories, and repeat, that no one is perfect, no one.

xx

[Rafiki11]

Who shouts at you for your mistakes? Does someone expect you to be perfect?

You are greater than your mistakes. It sounds like you’re fighting against shame a lot. Everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes are part of being human.

I’m thankful you make mistakes. It means you’re way more interesting than a machine or a robot! Mistakes mean you’re trying instead of giving up.