Crying and Angry

[Cheeriosatmidnight]

After my story I have been crying, yelling screaming nearly everyday for weeks now. I get angry and throw things. I don't destroy anything, usually just throw clothes and hit the bed. I am angry at myself and a lot of guilt. Seeing a therapist every week. Joined small groups at Church but can't seem to break the anger and crying habit. I feel like I need to grow up and move on. Any help would be appreciated. Willing to chat with someone who is or has gone thru the same thing.

[Cheeriosatmidnight]

I am taking anti depressants. Tried a few different ones nothing has worked. Take klonopin for anxiety and that is about the only thing that works.

[Jeff1943]

Has the ranting and anger helped you? Clearly not. You say you feel guilt. O.K. but you don't have to beat yourself up for ever. You can be redeemed by your actions and the decisions you make from now on. Never forget that, we can't put the clock back or undo mistakes we made in the past. But we can be redeemed.

[Cheeriosatmidnight in reply to Jeff1943]

Jeff. You are so right. Can't turn back the clock. I have to move forward.

[Jeff1943 in reply to Cheeriosatmidnight]

You will be redeemed, life lies ahead!

[Stippler]

I have lots of repressed anger issues. When I suppress my anger, it is usually because I feel guilty about being angry. Growing up I was never allowed to be angry, often being severely abused by my parents because I got mad. What I am trying to learn is it is okay to feel anger. Feeling anger and doing something drastic can be completely different things. It sounds like you are not doing any damage or injury to anybody, which is good. For me, I had to learn that it is okay to be angry. Anger is natural and it protects us the same way pain does. It tells us we have been hurt or violated so we can stop or prevent it. For me, I had to learn how to deal with anger constructively. It takes a while, but my first and most significant step was to accept myself and my anger. Then I can let it go, but it has to be when I am ready to let go of it - which is never as soon as I would like. A therapist can be very valuable during this process. Please believe in yourself and don't beat yourself up. I hope this helps.

[roses4all]

I have loads of anger... shrink says I am processing stuff that happened. At the moment, I am feeling pretty zen. The only thing that helps is being useful. I'm 60. I babysit for a neighbour. I babysat tonight... 2 kids, age 1 and 2.5. I put them to bed, read stories and sang songs. Then I cleaned up the kitchen. She (age 30) and her husband (age 33) went to the house they just bought and cleaned it up. They are in the process of moving. She always thanks me so much. I know I was useful. And for some reason, I don't feel anger after sitting for her.

[catmousefish]

Well, being angry is one level higher than depressed which is when someone is mad at themselves. Maybe there is a 12 step group re anger management, or buy a big punching bag. Exercise is good. Good luck.

[Vasiliki99 in reply to catmousefish]

Yes I suffer from anger , I need to manage my anger but overall it's more the whole day I need to make but more timing the loneliness the limitations the control needed the self control the feelings the actions n the trust and the wishes it was better and the grace to keep on a d in and on no matter what. I have no one else I can go no where else I can be If people were more understanding that we can only be in this shape we r now in this moment in this mindset and on this particular journey that is particular to us we can't be a other person on another person s journey we can't change our traits we don't want to we want them but to be curved curbed and refined like gems from stone we want to ourself and just be a accepted and helped

[Vasiliki99 in reply to catmousefish]

Nice response

[CLB1125]

Hi sorry you are dealing with this. I too am angry! I don’t know why! I just feel the need to be. I slam cupboard doors and bi!ch under my breath! My therapist has suggested to write in a notebook what I was doing when it started. She says eventually I will see a pattern as to what sets it off. I can’t say if this will help you or not but I’m finding that when I do write it down it deescalates my anger. Sometimes I just scribble on the page. And it feels like such a relief!!! I wish you well…

[Tealpillow in reply to CLB1125]

I love this: “Sometimes I just scribble on the page. And it feels like such a relief!!!” 💕

[Mermaid55 in reply to CLB1125]

My therapist had me get a kick bag. I would figure out what I was angry about while I was kicking. One thing be careful about-- where you put the bag- it marks the walls.

[Turnipgirl]

Everyone gets episodes in life when they feel angry and frustrated and I have had more than my share of them myself!

[Lve2dance in reply to Turnipgirl]

Ditto 😁

[Jay0524]

Might seem unorthodox have you tried abit of marijuana ? I suffered from clinical depression tried abit and it’s night and day however you do need to Monitor usage to be a functioning member of society. Remember don’t be afraid of rock bottom God made it aswell. You will prevail, be your biggest advocate & Goodluck!

[CLB1125 in reply to Jay0524]

God made the rock bottom also.. I like that. We only think of the good stuff

[LoveforAll41]

Let me just say that I love your username Cheerios! I guess there are probably anger management 12 step groups, there is also one called emotions anonymous that I love. I know that you can join online groups for it. I like what some have said about accepting our anger. I haven't read your story, but I am sure there is a reason you feel angry. It is understandable. I wish you peace, hope, and strength. Also, self-forgiveness and compassion

[Zhangliqun]

Maybe I'm late to the party and this has been mentioned in other conversations and if so, my apologies in advance.

But you gotta gotta gotta zero in on WHAT'S CAUSING this. If you don't, your treatment will be like a broken clock being right twice a day. You'll be chasing a ghost.

[CLB1125 in reply to Zhangliqun]

I haven’t been able to figure out what I am angry about. I’ve tried talking to my therapist and she has been of no help to me. Some days I wake up mad! A punching bag might be a good idea!!

[Vasiliki99]

Anger is normal part of your psyche it's just standard and it's ok as long as you predict it and you see we live in a physical material world on gravity it's awful feeling bad I do understand I feel angry scared sad tired desperate sad miserable and worried a lot and it's frustrating and do sad so difficult to get what u want therefore anger is a reaction to our frustrating conditions of limitations and containment.