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Hi everyone,

I am Cuong and I have trouble with talking to people because I am always depressed about many things around me. Usually I find it difficult to concentrate to do homework, social interaction... It’s difficult for me to make friends and keep in touch with them. It is always hard to express my feelings so I feel really sad. I also think a lot about my life, many things and it makes me feel tired and affects my work a lot too.

I am looking forward to your advices.

Thank you so much❤️

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I know exactly how you are feeling, I used to be a really social and outgoing person but after spending 6 months virtually House bound due to arthritis pain and mobility issues I know suffer from severe depression and anxiety anxiety problems and just the thought of going out and talking to people terrifies me, but I am getting help from my gp and have a telephone consultation next week with the mental health team, so I’m keeping my fingers crossed that they will be able to help me get back to the person I was before all this began, wishing you all the best and hope you get the help you need xx

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Thank you for your encouragement, I will find some help to get through these hard things. Talking to people is hard for me, I often feel stupid about what I say although I think a lot about it before speaking. Sometimes I spoke what I did not want to say and I am really sad about it

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I know exactly how you feel, I’m the same I find it really difficult to talk to people about my feelings and I always end up sobbing when I try to explain how I feel and what is getting me down or stressing me out, that’s what I like about this as you can open up and get everything out that’s bothering you and I find I can express myself much better when I don’t have to tell someone face to face how I’m feeling as it’s much easier to write about what your going through than taking to someone about it , I hope you get the help and support you need x

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Sometimes I wanted to find some help but the next minute I felt ok so I concentrated on my work and it came back again. I can’t stop thinking about everything. Now I am at my school and I just want to run away. I am really glad to hear from you x

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I understand completely as I felt exactly the same, extremely down 1 day and fine the next. I put off going to the doctor for several months and I wish I hadn’t waited so long as I was at breaking point by the time I went, by then I Felt like I had nothing left to live for, I was severely depressed and suffering from anxiety and extreme panic attacks,so I made myself go to the doctors and now I’m receiving the help and support I need and the medication im taking has made a difference already,I don’t feel as anxious or depressed as I did,The doctor referred me to a mental health support team and following a telephone assessment they contacted my doctor and recommended the treatment that would suit me best,1 of the medications they recommended is much better as it doesn’t just help with depression but it also helps with my insomnia, getting a few hrs sleep has made a huge difference, like you I also find it extremely hard to talk to people about my feelings and when I’m asked to explain how I feel I find the words to describe the way I feel,so sites like this are great as I can express myself and discuss my feelings and share what I’m going through with others and I don’t suffering with anxiety like I do when I have to discuss my feelings with someone face to face, being a member of this community has made a real difference as I don’t feel like I’m all alone anymore, knowing so many others are in similar situations to me has given me the strength I need to tackle my issues and to do whatever it takes to get my life back. So don’t give up, stay strong and don’t be afraid to ask for the help and support you need and keep on opening up to others in this community as it really does help to discuss how you are feeling and getting positive replies and suggestions can make all the difference xx

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Hi,

Thanks for your kind words. I’m sorry for not replying immediately because I was so stressed at that time. I’m glad to hear good news from you and your encouragement does help me a lot. I was in panic in past days. I still can not find help because it is too hard to talk to my parents and my friends about it. I don’t know how to start the story and I just don’t want them to so worry about me. Anyway, I’m very happy to hear you get the help you need. Keep going and stay positive xxx

P/S: you are right. This community helps us to express ourselves.

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I felt just like you do jos-pham as I didn’t feel comfortable taking to family members or friends either, but eventually things got so bad I forced myself to go to the doctors, don’t get me wrong it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done as I can’t bare talking not only about my feelings but myself in general, but I’m so glad I did as I was lucky enough to have a really sympathetic doctor who just listened and didn’t make me feel like I was being stupid and even tho I spent the majority of the appointment sobbing and unable to talk he prescribed something to help me with my depression and anxiety and referred me to a team who specialises in helping people like me to find the root of the problem that led me to feel the way I do, once they have all the facts then they will suggest a treatment plan that will best suit your needs and provide whatever support you require to help you overcome your issues and eventually get back to the person you used to be living a happier and more content life instead of existing rather than living due to overwhelming feelings of anxiety and depression and avoiding doing anything or going anywhere because it’s to stressful , I really do hope you find the courage to make an appointment to see your gp or at least call a helpline and get some support, if your anything like me you might find it easier to discuss your feelings over the phone as you don’t have to look someone in the face while discussing what your going through, if you ever want to talk about anything privately you can message me anytime, plz keep me posted and let me know how your doing x

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I am really glad to hear from you. I’m happier to hear you get the help from your doctor. I think just doctors understand what we are facing. Last days were so hard for me. I had so many thoughts about quitting school, avoiding my family members and my friends. I even thought about giving up but my parents were the motivation for me so I tried to think positively. I have more motivation when hearing good news from you. I used to think to let my parents know first and find solutions but now I can’t talk to them so I would find a doctor. Thanks for your kind words, they really help me a lot. I’ll keep in touch with you x

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I know it seems terrifying just thinking about go to the doctors and talking about what a huge impact your emotions are having on your life but I promise you once you have built up the courage to go for the first time it gets easier every time you go again, seen my gp every 2 wks so he can check my progress and inquire how I’m getting on with the medication I’m taking and if I’m finding the mh team he referred me helpful and asked what they are doing to help and support me, so it really is worth going and speaking to a gp, when you make an appointment ask to see a gp who specialises in mental health issues, good luck I really do hope you find someone who you can confide in and can give you the help and support you desperately need, as I know from experience the longer you put it off the worse things will get, and don’t worry about being pressured into doing stuff you don’t feel up to doing as they are really understanding and will let you go at your own pace, but you will feel better just by taking the medication they will prescribe you, I’ve felt much better in the last two weeks, I don’t cry every day like I was and I’m getting 3-5 hrs sleep a night but before I started taking the medication I’m on I was lucky if I got 2 hrs sleep a night, I’ve got an appointment with a mh nurse on the 4 th of December so I’m hoping she will be able to suggest ways to deal with my anxiety so I don’t feel overwhelmed every time I have to leave the house and I would love to be able to start going out again without suffering from panic attacks every time I do x

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People catch me offguard when I'm depressed. Popping in to say hi when I'm lost in my own thoughts and regrets. I think about the people i don't talk to anymore very often. But its my anxiety and depression that keeps me away. Your post touched me. Stay positive

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Hi,

I’m sorry for not replying you immediately because I was so stressed and thanks for your kind words. It is hard to explain to other people why we acted like that. I often feel sorry because I can not talk to my old friends. I miss them so much but I did not know how to express my feelings and thought. Sometimes I cried about it... I often thought about them and I was so sad... They are my good friends but I just can not speak to them. I hope in somedays, I’ll be better and talk to them easier. Your reply helps me feel better. Stay strong and keep fighting for our happiness x

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