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In a horrible place

This is the lowest I've ever been. My anxiety is through the roof from talking to my ex girlfriend tonight, who has a new boyfriend she obviously is much more into than she ever was with me during our year together.

I just don't know where to go from here. I don't think I'll ever recover and move on. I feel like I am never going to be the same. It's so hard to think about being motivated to move forward from this. I know I won't sleep tonight. I'm done with everything.

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Hey Struggling. Nothing hurts quite like a broken heart. We feel like we are at the bottom of a black hole and will never be able to climb out, and we certainly can’t see the light. I am not gonna sugar coat it and BS u. I know ur pain and would be happy to talk any time you need. 5 years later I still hope every time I see my ex wife I hope she’s gonna turn to me and say everything’s ok and tell me that she loves me. We have a beautiful 6 yr old son together. As I’m sure you know and I know too, this is never going to happen. The one thing I wanted to tell you that helps me is really sit with your pain. Listen to music and cry- cry really hard. Feel your pain and be one with it. Dive into it and embrace it. Only after I started doing these things was I able to start feeling better. Hopefully you’ll meet a great girl in the future. I still haven’t but maybe you will . I’m sorry for your pain. Pls feel free to PM me.

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Thank you for your reply Chaz. Sorry to hear about your situation 🙁 hope we can both turn it around. It's so hard.

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Hey there. Yes for sure. When I lost my first girlfriend at 17 I truly believed I would never recover. But I did. It took time but I did. And I’ve had many many girlfriends through my life. I had a first wife and it didn’t work out where I had two daughters. And my second wife that didn’t work out and I have my son. So you will find love again my friend. But not something you should think about now. Just take care of you. I’m here for you every day. Feel your pain. It hurts, I know. Be one with it.

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unfortunately have to come to terms with the fact that your ex-girlfriend does not want to be with you and has moved on to somebody else. Time does heal all wounds. Personally I would avoid contact with her also. Good luck and stay strong

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Hang in there ..break ups suck ..especially when the other person moves on first...you will get through it..don't talk to her rt until you are involved with someone else...seriously the odds of you being alone forever are ridiculously low..it just feels like it rt now.. Nows a good time to take up a hobby you like or try something new

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It’s important to consider your emotional state before starting a new relationship but it helps me to date other people when a breakup occurs. It can just be lighthearted and fun. I feel it allows you to accept love and attention from others and help take your mind off the breakup.

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Thank you for all of your replies. I am hoping better days come soon. Right now it's on my mind from the moment I wake up until the moment I fall asleep. I feel numb.

I finally reached a breaking point yesterday and reached out for help. Told my parents about how I'm feeling (I've been too embarrassed for many years to talk about depression with my family) and set up an appointment with a councilor for the first time.

I hope something works. Right now I still feel doomed... it's exhausting to try to fight these thoughts all day long, and to also have to focus on being productive with other things - like my job. 🙁

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Struggling2223, give yourself credit in taking 2 important steps forward. First opening up to your parents who love and will support you and Second, setting up an appointment with a counselor. That being the first time, I think you will be surprised in how much it helps with the pain, loss and finding hope by talking with a therapist who understands and can guide you.

Losses of people we love in our lives is one the list of life's events that impact us the most. The healing process of any loss is not to sweep in under the rug but to come forward and address the emotional impact it has made on your life and your productivity. As alone and lost that you feel right now, know that this won't always be. Take the time you need right now for "you". My best, Agora1

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Hey there!

Do you think you going through hell?well im gonna tell you a little bit about my situation

My wife left me about a month ago, we’ve got into an argument,one of many ones but this time was different because she did not want to comeback home to me.we’ve been together for 22 years, we have a daughter she is 20 years old.

Since she left me i have not been the same anymore,i’ve been dealing with panic attacks and anxiety for more than fifteen years i was doing just fine until she left,so now all of the sudden

I feel so lonely and with no desire to continue on, i have been getting my panic attacks again i littely feel like shit.

So please don’t feel so bad, we are in this together and we will find comforting we just have to continue fighting with ourselves one day at a time. There are better days ahead of us

Don’t give up man,don’t give up

I am not giving up and you shouldn’t ether ok? Good luck

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Thanks much for your message and I am so sorry to hear of your situation. You are much stronger than me to be saying those encouraging words with what you have been through.

It's just so hard to trust people, I've always just ended up getting hurt. I hate thinking about doing it all over again, or getting to the point where you were and have something happen that's out of my control.

But you're right. Better days are ahead of us. I need to continue to remind myself that.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am pulling for you.

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God bless brother🙏🏻

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