I need help

Please help me my doctor wants me to go back up to 60mg of cymbalta. My husband is screaming at me and doesnt want me to go back up. I have no one to talk to.

[bluebayou]

I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. Why is your husband so upset about what your doctor has suggested? How do YOU feel about uping your medication?

[Hidden in reply to bluebayou]

I don't want to I think it needs to be changed. I al alone with no one to support me or try to help. My husband doesn't care.

[bluebayou in reply to Hidden]

You're so strong for coming here for help though! I hope you're able to talk to your doctor and get your dosage sorted out so that it'll benefit you the most. Keep hanging in there. I'm really sorry you don't have anyone physically there to support you (also extra sorry your husband doesn't seem to care) but there's lots of people here going through the same thing who all wish the best for you.

[Chloe2057 in reply to Hidden]

Hi again, l hope you read my earlier reply. I have just seen another of your posts. You state that your husband doesn’t care? Maybe he has seen you unwell over a long period of time and wonders where the woman he married went? Maybe he feels the situation is out of control? Maybe he simply doesn’t understand what you are going through? Maybe he doesn’t understand the effects the medication has on you? Maybe you are good at “making light” of how you feel? Maybe he is a man who likes to be in control and this is way out of his control? Maybe he is utterly heartbroken and cannot talk about it?

When we are depressed and all you guys out there reading this please correct me if l am wrong, we all teams to look at things differently than when we are not in a depressive state. We look at things catastrophically too.

I am in the UK and l kind of think maybe you are in the US? Please correct me if l am wrong. It’s just that l understand how things work here and what is available to you. Although l lived in the US for 6 years l do not have a working knowledge of what is available.

Lastly, if your husband REALLY does not care? Does he not care at all for you? Is that part of the underlying reason for your depression? If so, with support, help and guidance it may be time to call an end to it. You are worth more than that. In the meantime, we are all here for you! Never forget that! I will keep an eye on your posts if you like. Please think about what l and others have said, we have been there, some of us are there and some of us have recovered. Love Chloe 💕

[Chloe2057 in reply to Chloe2057]

Please excuse my terrible typos! Always forget to grab the “new” glasses! x

[Chloe2057]

Hi, Your situation is very worrying from many points of view. It must be sorted out and l can’t help but think that some good old common sense is needed here as it sounds like a situation that could “spiral out of control”.

Firstly, there will be a reason why your Doctor wants you to increase your medication. This could be because he can recognise you have a need for an increased dose. Have you asked your Doctor to explain his reasons clearly for his wish to increase your medicine? Most, not all, medicines have side effects. Some bearable, hardly noticeable and some sadly significant. Is it the side effects you are concerned about? There are medications available to offset side effects for some medicines.

When you say you are alone and have no one to talk to, is this because you have been too unwell to mix socially? Depression and associated conditions are known to “deprive people of their liberty, friends, family, employment, homes, marriages the list goes on! You are not ALONE l promise. You have made it onto this site! I went to bed for a whole year once due to a deep depression when l finally raised myself up l realised that Christmas, Easter, Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter had all passed as had many of my friends! However, l was lucky because a few really good friends had “ridden the wave of depression” with me.

Please make another appointment with your Doctor and discuss further your concerns about increasing your dose of medicine. ALSO and it is a huge ALSO explain that you have no-one to talk to and feel totally isolated. He may be able to suggest groups, organisations or centres that you could attend. Please do this.

Lastly, your husband. Why does he not want you to increase your medication? Does he not understand how it works? Is he suspicious of the side effects? Please take some time out to sit down with him, he is your husband, and ask him to ATTEND that next appointment with you in order that he can more fully understand what is going on.

If, and l really hope not, there are issues you cannot talk about openly going on here, for example domestic abuse, this needs dealing with immediately. You can and will get help.

In the meantime! Please believe we are all bound together on this fantastic site by shared conditions, we care about each other and right now that includes YOU! Please let us know what happens and keep us up to date on your progress. With love Chloe 💕

[tofler]

How were you doing when you were taking 60mg, did it reduce your symptoms? Your husband needs to shut up, he's probably making things even worse for you?

[Hidden in reply to tofler]

Only somewhat

[tofler in reply to Hidden]

Why was the dose reduced if the 60mg dose wasn't making much difference to your symptoms?

[Hidden]

Listen to the doctor, not husband. If husband is making it worse maybe try to bring him with u to the doc so they can explain it to him?

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Does going up help you? You don’t need his permission! My husband is the same way though. Maybe instead of an increase though you may need something else. My husband is a bad alcoholic and he blames everything about me on taking medicine. He even blames his alcohol on me. He says that’s his medicine. It’s my fault because I depress him etc... I just say, you can leave. I’m not forcing you to be with me. It’s mental status is worse than mine and he’s a jerk from alcohol. I just ignore him. That’s why I’m here. I took cymbalta but couldn’t take the side effects. For me it was hot flashes, weight gain and who knows what else. Anyway you are in control of your body! I would believe your doctor on medically related problems more than your husband. I’d even go on strike. Do nothing and tell him well you don’t want me taking medicine to help me. I’m doing that now but I just don’t discuss what I take with him. It’s easiet that way. Our marriage is NOT good but that’s what I feel. You see where it’s got me. Although not even discussing meds etc with him does help a lot!

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I did have him go to doctor with me so my dr could explain the importance of my meds. He’s a drunk though. So idk