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In crisis

I can't think straight. I can't get out of bed. If I leave my room my family will try to talk to me and I just can't handle that right now. I'm not strong enough to look anyone in the eye and pretend I'm fine. I'm so messed up right now. I'm destroying myself. I haven't hardly eaten in nearly a day and I stayed up so late and slept in so much I don't feel rested at all. My brain feels like I poured acid in it.

I just want to wait until my mind clears and I can help myself but it's not clearing. I don't know what to do.

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Hi Macen,

You don't have to pretend you are okay to anyone.

Today will be an achievement if you only do one thing to look after you.

Having drinks of water will help get the brain hydrated and feeling better.

Nothing else required but if you can think of the next small thing you can do, try to do this too.

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I can do that. Thank you.

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Macen. I hope you are getting through the day. To Macen and the community, I really need a way to out of this. Have been bedridden for a week, cannot talk to anyone. So nauseous and exhausted and freaked out, that I can't even handle daily personal care. Ideas welcome.

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Hi Pbennett2613 and Macen I usually get stuck on this case also for a year. what made my life change is knowing that I am the one who creates and recreates the narrative of my story. I know it may look incredibly bleak for you right now. These feelings are only temporary and We'll be right there with you. It’s you and us against the depression, and we will win. Would you like a hug? I'll send one! love from the Philippines

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Would love a hug. Any ideas on st term crisis help. I am Catholic and beat alcoholism recently, but my underlying mental disorder is bad. I have suicidal ideation, and have tried before. That was before I got sober. But I am headed toward complete loss of myself. Thanks for the ray of hope. Someone cares!!!!! Love from the U.S. to my Philippine friend.

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Yes! Im glad I now had an American friend! I would love to help you more and build a stronger friendship with you. It is my honor.

In either case, the following tips will help you suffering from depression in their recovery from alcoholism as well:

Avoid people, places, and things that trigger cravings and urges or that you find triggers depressive symptoms. However, if you have holidays or birthdays or weddings or other special events that you want to attend but that might trigger cravings for alcohol or make you feel down, put in mind that you must have a specific purpose and a time limit in mind when you attend. For example, go with the plan that you are going to greet the people at the event, congratulate them, and then begin to say your farewells after thirty minutes and commit to being out the door after 45 minutes. If it is a family dinner, like Thanksgiving, that triggers your depressive symptoms or cravings for alcohol, you might not be able to go to these, at least while your recovery is still in the early phases. Or, just show up for dessert.

You are responsible for your own sober recovery as well as taking care of your own depression. You can’t expect the world to change around you. Others will not stop drinking — nor are they required to. They will not stop asking you to do things that may not be good for you. So ask your therapist to help you work on refusal skills — that is, the ability to say “no.”

I believe that you with depression, who tend to withdraw from their friends and families anyway, it may be harder to make new, sober friends. Start with friends from your support groups and then go from there.

If you are taking medications for alcoholism, depression or both, be sure to report any unusual symptoms to your doctor immediately. If they are severe, go to the nearest emergency room. Also, advocate for yourself. If you are concerned about symptoms or the longer-term effects of your medication, read up on the pharmaceutical company’s web site. Make sure your doctor is giving you the requisite blood tests (if recommended), and is monitoring your response and reaction to the medication as advised by the drug’s producers.

Im sorry for my English. Im tryin my best to help and communicate well. :)

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My gosh. Your English is excellent. I am certainly interested on correspondence to help me through this. I have a longer term purpose for myself, finally. I have to get through this so I can fulfill this. I have been struggling with personal crises and an even bigger existential crisis. I have been going through divorces, being a professional in Environmental Sciences Management, Coununications, and public relations and a single mother. I had to travel a lot. I have a master's degree in Environmental Sciences and 20 years experience. I am passionate about investing and finding answers, but I cannot find an answer to my basic problem - mental health issues. I began looking over for answers over 25 years ago and have done research on my own. I have had lots of therapy.

There has to be an optimal answer, no matter of the ramifications. I always do a personal pro/cons inventory before I take action. That may include a risk analysis. This is my basic nature. It will not change, and is not necessarily bad, but it is crippling me now. I can't trust my brain, heart, or instincts right now. Thank you for all your guidance so far. It has helped reinforce and remind me of some things I know, but forgot. I look forward to further corresponce.

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Macen, sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I completely understand, as I've been in similar states myself. What others said is right, it's temporary and this won't last forever. You're going through a difficult time right now so give yourself the space and time to get through it. You don't have to face anyone if your not ready. But know that people do care about you. Try to just take it one day at a time. If you want some self-love tips and tricks let me know. Try googling self compassion. That might help you feel a little better. Sending hugs.

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Hi Macen.

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling like this.

Depression and related states that we experience are so hard to explain to others and that makes it worse.

Our bodies and minds are very clever and any state physical and/or mental normally has a beneficial aspect to it, in the sense that it is attempting to convey a message to you about something going on for you in your life.

What’s going on for you in your life right now other than this feeling?

What troubles you or bothers you, is there anything that is going on that typically makes you worried or fearful?

You say “family”, who specifically in your family do you not want to speak to?

You say you don’t want to look “anyone in the eyes and pretend your fine”. Who specifically do you not want to look in the eye?

You should most definitely take your time to get yourself into a state of mind that will allow you to take better control of yourself, we all need some time out once in a while. I’m also pretty sure that not eating and drinking will actually make your brain seem even more foggy. When this happens to me I find that I probably want to eat and drink a little something now.

I would also put on some soft music, rest and sleep a little if needed, watch a favourite film.

You feel confused because your brain is running on nothing, it needs rest and nutrition so give it what it needs.

You will find you can feel and be better now can’t you.

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Hey just wanted to let you all know I'm doing a lot better today, though I had a rough night. Something about actually talking about the pain I was in instead of running away from it seemed to enable me to start feeling better. Or maybe things just get worse before they got better and things hit a critical point last night.

Thank you all for your support. I'll try to learn things from this experience and share it will y'all. Gosh I can't tell you how good it feels to be able to leave the house and just do something as simple as shopping.

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I did some thinking last night, (finally) and I realized one of the reasons I'm dissatisfied with life -- and may also be one of the things that triggers the depression -- is that I feel like I'm not in control of my life. Not in control of myself and not able to move in the direction I want to.

I have some seriously debilitating depression, that's one thing that seems to hold me back. I struggle with an addiction that I can't seem to end. I've had to drop out of college classes because I haven't been able to manage these issues well enough to be able to be successful in school - so I don't feel in control if my education and future. There's tons of other stuff I wish I could do -- that I feel like I NEED to do to be successful, but I just can't do them right now, not in the way I hoped, anyway.

I guess I just want to feel like I'm in control my life. (I'm not asking for complete control, I know that's impossible.) but just enough to see there's hope for the future.

I think that's the thing that's an underlying theme of my depressive episode. As far as your other questions I'm not totally sure. I think my mistrust for my family is a product of my irrational super depressed brain , though I have always had a hard time really connecting with family for some reason. I guess it's because I can't just cut the strings of things go wrong. :/

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