I met this girl when i was in the hospital and we exchanged phone numbers. She was discharged before me and started the partial program, I was discharged a week later and then I started the partial program. We started hanging out there and after the program ended for the day. We were spending a lot of time together and she is 20 years old, painfully shy and quiet. I enjoyed her company but things started to get a little intimate. We started to hold hands and eventually kissed. I felt like this was going way to fast and I wasnt taking care of myself and not taking the program seriously. I was not looking for a relationship and it just happened. I am not usually attracted to women and again, it just happened. I started to get anxiety over it and I wrote her a letter explaining that I can't be involved with someone right now and that I need to take care of myself. She took the letter very hard and was sending me text messages saying that I broke her heart and that she was going to go out and drink. I had to block her number and my anxiety was high. She showed up at the program and wanted to talk to me but I ignored her because it was to upsetting to talk with her. She left a note on my car and I didn't read it until a week later. She basically said that I should give her a second chance and that we could grow old together. I didn't respond to the letter and left it at that. One day out of the blue I get this text from someone and I had no clue who it was until she called me and it was her. She keeps texting me everyday and wanting to talk and I am not ready to talk to her. I don't feel attracted to her like that and I just can't have a relationship right now, I can barely take care of myself! What would you do in this situation? I feel bad and guilty because I have never been able to set boundaries and it just feels weird to me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you for listening.