Scared

[SK30]

Hi I'm new to this.. I've been told that I am suffering with depression. I tried to self harm.. I haven't told my partner yet as I am scared of what he will say to me.. I feel ashamed of my self that I have got myself into this.. I don't know how to approach the subject...

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It may hard not be ashamed of something like this because it violates a view of yourself. Shame is a very destructive feeling, I know it personally. You're not the only one, of course, you never are in whatever you've done. It's a cry for help and do you have a friend of family member you can talk to? IF this guy is a true boyfriend, he'll be understanding and supportive, not all of them are.

[claire0410]

Do you have a counselor or therapist who you can talk to? Your fear of what your partner might do or say is a very real one, but if he/she really loves you, I think that they will want to do anything they can to help you.

[SK30 in reply to claire0410]

I'm starting with a therapist next week but still not said anything to him about that or even anything on what I'm feeling or have done.. don't know what his reaction will be.. I'm afraid of the back lash..

[claire0410]

It is hard to keep all your feelings to yourself! I tried to do that for awhile, and eventually broke down and told my husband what was going on. In my anxiety driven state, I was also afraid of his reaction. The reality was that he stood with me and has done everything he can to help me when I ask. Be aware, that there will be times that will be frustrating for both of you as this can be just as scary for your partner as it is for you! I wish you all the best and hope that seeing a therapist will be the start of you getting on the road to a happier place! Let me know how it goes. For me, seeing a therapist at least seemed to stop the free fall that I felt that I was in at the time, and has started to help me get a better handle on my feelings.