Spousal Support

[BrandonKyle]

I am currently married to a wonderful woman that suffers from depression and anxiety. I have recently learned there is more to it than her just "getting over it." So I am looking for spousal support groups online.

[Justswimming]

That's a good start..she needs to see therapist and take meds sometimes she's going to need help making sure she takes meds and goes to therapy because sometimes when your depressed you need help you can't remember or concentrate ...exercise helps so do that with her even just walking in the park helps best wishes

[Pearl67]

Brandonkyle,

How very sweet and loving for you to seek ways to help support your wife! You will need the support as well! But it simply warms my heart that you love her so much you are willing to seek a deeper understanding of her disorder and ways to help her. You are a beautiful soul and she is very lucky to have you!

There are so many places online to find information on mental health and things that help. Come back often for support and let us know what works the best! You may even help someone else🤗

[BrandonKyle in reply to Pearl67]

Thank you for the kind words. I've been beating myself up over not being able to help bring her back from her dark place

[1dayiwontfeelthisway in reply to BrandonKyle]

Just being there for her and trying to understand her pain that means so much. She might not verbalize or show how much it means to her. Don't give up on her.

I'm lucky my husband has always stood by me and picked me up when I crumble to pieces.

Mental illness sucks

[Jmerrick22 in reply to BrandonKyle]

I commend you for being there for your wife and learning more about these issues. I know from my own experiences I think is anxiety sufferers and anyone with depression can say it's a roller coaster of emotions for us . Some days we may seem distant some we may be clingy and I think it's amazing that you haven't given up on your wife like a good amount of people do because they can't handle it . I would say maybe try group therapy with her or check some onlin sites in your area that may have some resources for you.

[Pearl67]

Oh Brandonkyle.....you can't. BUT!!!! You CAN love her. Hold her. Be there. AND get support for yourself so you have the strength to help her.

I have a wonderful husband. I do! But I will tell you that it would mean the world to me if he would have or would, if I am on a dark place in the future, learn about anxiety/depression.

People suffering real anxiety/depression are quite frustrated they cannot "snap out of it," or "think positive." Typically, most know "things could be worse," or their life is actually pretty good, but for whatever reason-chemical imbalance, side effects of other meds for other illnesses, etc., -they just cannot "snap out of it." It frustrates the suferer as well.

Bless your heart for your devotion. She is blessed.

[Loki1018]

Brandonkyle hey so basically your doing the right thing starting off. So I would say we're kind of the same situation but I'm in your wife's place and my boyfriend is in your shoes. Just came to acceptance that I have bipolar with depression and anxiety what a party! I started to take meds, have a psyc, and a therapist and they do help a little. Right now it's basically find the right balance with meds along with therapy. At times I want to be left alone and although I want to be left alone at the same time I would like him to be there, there are times where I'm just in a rage and agitation for no reason, then I'm happy then sad. As you can see my moods aren't stable I also have my highs which don't last for too long then depression hits. From this I also have to deal with the anxiety so it's a lot. By the way I've been like this for probably a very long time just didn't know what it was and as I look back when I was younger in my teenage it was soo much because I was a heavy weed smoker which probably helped a lot of my moods being all over the place, when it wasn't weed I would drink not to the point of being obliterated but to where I was numb enough. And now that I've been clean for a few years it has manifested itself and since I'm not self medicating with the pot it's more pronounced now plus I just recently came to terms with I was in denial as well as my pride had a part in it too, but now I'm seeking the help I need. Best thing is just let her know you love her, your there for her, reassurance is going to have to be a big part for her in this. Good luck and I hope she gets better remember you 2 are a team for better or worse and in sickness and health!!!