So alone 😢

[melbrown]

My sister left this morning, officially moved. My husband leaves in 2 days for 2 weeks... I'm super sad & depressed. My birthday is on the 23rd, though my brother is taking me out for dinner that night I can't get out of this cloud....

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You can have a second birthday celebration when he comes back 😉 a romantic dinner

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

😊 that's the plan. We were going out tomorrow, but some friends invited us over & my guy thought it would do me some good to see friend's.

[Hidden in reply to melbrown]

Awww he sounds awesome, go out there, have some fun for me too hun 💜

[2knowme]

Sounds like you need a hug! Until someone can do that, hug yourself right now! Being alone can be hard for some people but it sounds like something more is going on with you. Not knowing your situation only leaves me to believe that you along with a lot of others like myself have a chemical imbalance. If you are not on medication try finding a hobby or something you might enjoy doing, which could also surround you with other people to engage yourself with to occupy some of your time. There are all sorts of support groups you could attend. Peace & Love

[melbrown in reply to 2knowme]

Thank you. I'm on Prozac, but I also have major abbandment issues from childhood. I'm glad my brother is here & is aware of how I'm feeling.

[20Voices in reply to melbrown]

It is sad when someone leaves, but think of the good time you can have with your husband when he comes back.

Also, you will be seeing your sister again won't you? Think about how much you both will have to share when you see each other.

I hope you feel better soon.

Take care.

[gogogirl in reply to melbrown]

I think you should give yourself a break also. How nice also that your brother really knows you and how you feel. That is so important. It sounds like you have a close family.

[HearYou]

Oh, Mel.....I get down too when my husband is gone for days. And my birthday falls near Christmas, so that gets swept under the rug often. You have a smiling dog on your page!

Last year when my husband was gone so much of the month, I found my self really getting down, like I was a widow....he had to be gone that much. My dog Scooter and I did a lot of walking and visiting the shopping areas just to say hi to perfect strangers for short conversations.

How about calling a friend up and just go out and even just do nothing if need be....window shop or have a lunch and some talk time. Or check out some of the people you have communicated with or comment on their posts and just send a short reply that you are actually handling things rather well. And have your brother take you to an EXPENSIVE dinner.

It's difficult to be yourself with our conditions, but maybe it's not going to be as bad as you think.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY EARLY! There, that's your first birthday wish!

[melbrown in reply to HearYou]

💛 thanks. Thanks Han Solo aka snuggle pup. He is 1 happy pup🐶 Maybe I'll take him on a super long walk Sunday to get my mind off things.

I'm sorry your birthday gets ignored since it's so close to Christmas. A good friend's birthday is also around the holidays we try to give her extra love. My brother will find it funny what you suggested for dinner plans.... We kid around in our family. A family friend (My brother's best bud) is joining us & he's a funny guy, so hopefully I'll enjoy myself. I have plans to go to the mall on 1 of the days, use my birthday offers/discount.The night's will be the hardest part. My husband will be gone for school- it's for his work. Been a 3 year program, goes up for 2 weeks in summer & writes papers during year. This is the last year, I'll be going up for his graduation for labor day weekend. It's a big deal that his job sent him there (only 1or 2 gets selected every year), so trying to focus on that.💛🙏

[HearYou in reply to melbrown]

Give HansSolo and really long hug for me. Is there a summer time typr restauant that puts chairs and tables outside for lunch. Maybe you can take Hans to lunch that way. And you will have everybody talking to you about your 4 legged "date".

About the nights, do you have a computer? Does your husband have one at school? You can Skipe. If both parties have it, there usually is no fee. Most computers, even laptops have a camera and speakers built in....see that little cicle at the top of the screen...that's it. The instructions on line are simple enough for me to follow...and I'm a real dunce when it comes to computers. You can see and talk to one another.

[gogogirl]

What a great brother- taking you out like that. Still, I know what it feels like to have to make adjustments like that- it's like a shock. I hope that you will continue to celebrate your life when your husband gets back, and when you and your sister have a visit.

[gogogirl]

And BTW HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

[Mila86]

Hey, B-day!!! Look at the bright side ( someone told me yesterday look at the half full glass, not at the half empty) you are going to have two B- day celebrations, one w your brothers and one w your husband. Think positive. It's hard sometimes, I know, and do something nice for the people you love. That keeps me going. I have days when I can't smile and I'm constantly worried about everything and scared but the next day it gets better, or in a couple days. Wish you best of luck

[Windy101]

Mel, this sounds like a good time to treat yourself in ways you might not when your husband is around. Here's an idea: take out a calendar and for those two weeks. plan one special thing each day to treat yourself. It could be a facial mask, hair conditioning, home pedi/mani, chick flick or lit, eating your favorite cake or cookies, a special meal cooked just for yourself. If you can afford it, go shopping for a special outfit or just one nice piece of clothing you've wanted (thrift stores have great stuff if money is tight). Try a new perfume. Take a nice bubblebath and slip into clean sheets with fresh jammies. Read some racy magazines you might not otherwise. Find a racy romance novel. Check your TV guide for fun old movies and write them on your schedule. Go to a store with pretty candles and fll your place with scent. Play some soothing music on the radio and do progressive relaxaton. Whatever, just try to plan one fun event for every night. When we're abandoned, we internalize the message that we're worthless. But that was a lie! You're an adult now and can use good self care to take the edge of that feeling and remind yourself that you deserve to be cared for and to be loved. When the scary thoughts come up, tell yourself that you are not abandoned anymore. Somes like you are a lovely person with many people who care about you. Your husband will return, and while it's totally understanadale that you will be sad and miss him terribly, you can be good to yourself during this time and get through it. If you need to, you can call hotlines for support and talk as longas your want to. You can also post right here where people understand and care. I wish you the best and have faith that you can do this!

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Birthday girl tomorrow